Unnamed Caller 3

I'm completely out at work about being poly and everyone is super supportive, but I know of at least two coworkers who are poly but not out at work yet. We use online forms to RSVP for things like company picnics or holiday parties. Previously, the forum asked something like, are you bringing your spouse?

I'm completely out at work about being poly and everyone is super supportive, but I know of at least two coworkers who are poly but not out at work yet. We use online forms to RSVP for things like company picnics or holiday parties. Previously, the forum asked something like, are you bringing your spouse?

I have brought multiple partners to the company events before, but for those coworkers who aren't out, the RSVP questions might make them feel like their whole family is not necessarily welcome at these events. I emailed our admin folks and suggested trying to find some more inclusive language. Now the forum simply asks, how many adults are you bringing?

I have brought multiple partners to the company events before, but for those coworkers who aren't out, the RSVP questions might make them feel like their whole family is not necessarily welcome at these events. I emailed our admin folks and suggested trying to find some more inclusive language. Now the forum simply asks, how many adults are you bringing?

It costs the company almost nothing to accommodate multiple partners. We always have lots of leftover food and drinks. but it makes it clear that they respect me and my partners and my family system. If you're the person at your company who has the opportunity to make diverse families feel more welcome, it might be as simple as adding a couple of words to your RSVP form.

It costs the company almost nothing to accommodate multiple partners. We always have lots of leftover food and drinks. but it makes it clear that they respect me and my partners and my family system. If you're the person at your company who has the opportunity to make diverse families feel more welcome, it might be as simple as adding a couple of words to your RSVP form.

In my opinion, this discourse should be less about paying for one more steak dinner at your wedding or whether your guests will have a special person to talk to and much more about acknowledging that we don't all fit into the same mold and doing what we can to make people in our lives feel seen, cared for, and welcome.

In my opinion, this discourse should be less about paying for one more steak dinner at your wedding or whether your guests will have a special person to talk to and much more about acknowledging that we don't all fit into the same mold and doing what we can to make people in our lives feel seen, cared for, and welcome.

Hey, Dan, Nancy, and the tech-savvy youth. Calling about the caller who said he had an anxious attachment style. I am a mental health professional, and a lot of people make the mistake thinking that attachment styles are fixed identities, like a personality style that they'll have for the rest of their life. That's just not true.

Hey, Dan, Nancy, and the tech-savvy youth. Calling about the caller who said he had an anxious attachment style. I am a mental health professional, and a lot of people make the mistake thinking that attachment styles are fixed identities, like a personality style that they'll have for the rest of their life. That's just not true.

All of us are aiming to have a secure attachment style where we trust ourselves and we trust others. So if you have an anxious attachment style, you don't trust other people. And if you have an avoidant attachment style, you only trust yourself. So there's no excuse just to say, I have an anxious attachment style.

All of us are aiming to have a secure attachment style where we trust ourselves and we trust others. So if you have an anxious attachment style, you don't trust other people. And if you have an avoidant attachment style, you only trust yourself. So there's no excuse just to say, I have an anxious attachment style.

If this caller's person he's having sex with is making him feel mistrustful and anxious, this is not a time to lean into his attachment style, but to have a corrective experience, live with the ambivalence and the ambiguity that comes up with relationships, and try to be more secure.

If this caller's person he's having sex with is making him feel mistrustful and anxious, this is not a time to lean into his attachment style, but to have a corrective experience, live with the ambivalence and the ambiguity that comes up with relationships, and try to be more secure.

It's okay to get a little wild.

It's okay to get a little wild.

If you're stuck in a relationship quandary

If you're stuck in a relationship quandary

Hi, Dan. I'm a 36-year-old lesbian in a relationship with my girlfriend. We've been together for two years and are monogamous. We have a wonderful relationship, very, very deeply fulfilled, have amazing sex and just very, very deeply in love. We've been thinking about when we're older, you know, maybe things when –

Hi, Dan. I'm a 36-year-old lesbian in a relationship with my girlfriend. We've been together for two years and are monogamous. We have a wonderful relationship, very, very deeply fulfilled, have amazing sex and just very, very deeply in love. We've been thinking about when we're older, you know, maybe things when –