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If that's not the culprit, this type of behavior can also be exhibited when a cat is stressed or anxious, and there's just been a big change in the social structure of the house for your cat after the loss of your dog. Your vet can also talk to you about over-the-counter or prescription calming therapies, environmental enrichment, and other strategies to

If that's not the culprit, this type of behavior can also be exhibited when a cat is stressed or anxious, and there's just been a big change in the social structure of the house for your cat after the loss of your dog. Your vet can also talk to you about over-the-counter or prescription calming therapies, environmental enrichment, and other strategies to

to make her feel more secure and redirect this unwanted behavior. But for goodness sake, your job is not to be a surrogate sexual partner for your cat. And stop biting her. As Janine Garofalo once said in that quirky 90s rom-com, The Truth About Cats and Dogs, love your pet. Don't love your pet.

to make her feel more secure and redirect this unwanted behavior. But for goodness sake, your job is not to be a surrogate sexual partner for your cat. And stop biting her. As Janine Garofalo once said in that quirky 90s rom-com, The Truth About Cats and Dogs, love your pet. Don't love your pet.

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Hi Dan, I'm a late 30s married cis woman calling about my experiences with possibly borderline sex work and how it might be impacting my marriage. I started dating my husband in my early 20s, got married after 7 years and now we have a 1 year old child and we've been totally monogamous the whole time. We have an okay sex life.

Hi Dan, I'm a late 30s married cis woman calling about my experiences with possibly borderline sex work and how it might be impacting my marriage. I started dating my husband in my early 20s, got married after 7 years and now we have a 1 year old child and we've been totally monogamous the whole time. We have an okay sex life.

I'm still very attracted to him physically, and we have good chemistry. He knows how to make me cum. But things are pretty repetitive, and the frequency has cut in half since our son was born, so we're lucky if we have sex twice a month now. After my son was born, I needed to get back in touch with my identity outside of being a parent, and I started studying burlesque.

I'm still very attracted to him physically, and we have good chemistry. He knows how to make me cum. But things are pretty repetitive, and the frequency has cut in half since our son was born, so we're lucky if we have sex twice a month now. After my son was born, I needed to get back in touch with my identity outside of being a parent, and I started studying burlesque.

Over the past couple months, I've had opportunities to dance in a few amateur shows in small local bars, which end with performers stripping down to a thong and nipple tassels. My husband has been supportive of me doing burlesque.

Over the past couple months, I've had opportunities to dance in a few amateur shows in small local bars, which end with performers stripping down to a thong and nipple tassels. My husband has been supportive of me doing burlesque.

Since entering a burlesque community that includes many queer women and enby folks, I've even had the confidence to come out to him as bi, which is something I've known my entire adult life and never told anyone. He was surprised, but he took it pretty well considering that we're monogamous, so it's kind of irrelevant.

Since entering a burlesque community that includes many queer women and enby folks, I've even had the confidence to come out to him as bi, which is something I've known my entire adult life and never told anyone. He was surprised, but he took it pretty well considering that we're monogamous, so it's kind of irrelevant.

One thing that came up recently, though, is I had a burlesque show at a very atypical venue. I actually performed at a large local sex club. Even though I only walked through the club long enough to get to the green room and the stage, I can't stop thinking about it.

One thing that came up recently, though, is I had a burlesque show at a very atypical venue. I actually performed at a large local sex club. Even though I only walked through the club long enough to get to the green room and the stage, I can't stop thinking about it.

I was so worried that the venue would be sketchy and make me uncomfortable, but they had really good boundaries and it actually made me feel like more of a safe space than a lot of the nightclubs I'd been to before. When I came home and I told my husband, he was pretty quick to judge and say that it's kind of a weird kink for people to want to have sex in public.

I was so worried that the venue would be sketchy and make me uncomfortable, but they had really good boundaries and it actually made me feel like more of a safe space than a lot of the nightclubs I'd been to before. When I came home and I told my husband, he was pretty quick to judge and say that it's kind of a weird kink for people to want to have sex in public.

I didn't say to him, but I guess I'm kind of an exhibitionist and the thought of going to that club again, either as a performer or even as a guest with my husband seems so exciting to me. I just thought it was so cool to see so many people comfortable with their bodies and their sexuality.

I didn't say to him, but I guess I'm kind of an exhibitionist and the thought of going to that club again, either as a performer or even as a guest with my husband seems so exciting to me. I just thought it was so cool to see so many people comfortable with their bodies and their sexuality.