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We've all mutually caught in feelings for each other, which is just wonderful. It's been a ton of fun. We're really happy with how our relationship is growing. But seeing as how my wife and I are already in an established relationship, we've been together for nine years, married for three, we own a house together. I really want to be careful not to let that couple privilege create

We've all mutually caught in feelings for each other, which is just wonderful. It's been a ton of fun. We're really happy with how our relationship is growing. But seeing as how my wife and I are already in an established relationship, we've been together for nine years, married for three, we own a house together. I really want to be careful not to let that couple privilege create

some negative hierarchy in all three of our relationships. I guess what I'm looking for is, do you have any advice or things to look out for that you can pass on to us, seeing as this is the first time any one of us has really experienced this throuple dynamic when all three of us are dating each other?

some negative hierarchy in all three of our relationships. I guess what I'm looking for is, do you have any advice or things to look out for that you can pass on to us, seeing as this is the first time any one of us has really experienced this throuple dynamic when all three of us are dating each other?

Hi, Dan. I'm a 34 year old queer person on the East coast. And I recently ended an 11 year relationship and I'm wondering basically how to handle a breakup after realizing the relationship was emotionally abusive and

Hi, Dan. I'm a 34 year old queer person on the East coast. And I recently ended an 11 year relationship and I'm wondering basically how to handle a breakup after realizing the relationship was emotionally abusive and

The relationship ended really messily while we were visiting my family with him yelling at me and members of my family and me pretty much having to kick him out and send him home to the apartment we used to share.

The relationship ended really messily while we were visiting my family with him yelling at me and members of my family and me pretty much having to kick him out and send him home to the apartment we used to share.

A few family members had raised red flags after overhearing the way he talked to and yelled at me, but I didn't really consider emotional abuse until our former couples counselor called me and told me that that was her rate of the situation. And after doing a lot of reading and thinking and therapy, I've come to accept the fact that the relationship was abusive.

A few family members had raised red flags after overhearing the way he talked to and yelled at me, but I didn't really consider emotional abuse until our former couples counselor called me and told me that that was her rate of the situation. And after doing a lot of reading and thinking and therapy, I've come to accept the fact that the relationship was abusive.

And it's been just over a month since the breakup and I've pretty much gone no contact and started proceedings to a victim from my apartment. But the one sticking point is our dog. I know you're not a dog lover, but stick with me. We got this dog together and he's insisting he should get to keep her because years ago we verbally agreed that he would get her if we broke up.

And it's been just over a month since the breakup and I've pretty much gone no contact and started proceedings to a victim from my apartment. But the one sticking point is our dog. I know you're not a dog lover, but stick with me. We got this dog together and he's insisting he should get to keep her because years ago we verbally agreed that he would get her if we broke up.

But other than that verbal agreement, there's no reason he should have her. He can't afford to take care of her. I pay for 100% of her care. I'm the one that takes her to the vet. I'm the one that walks her. Plus, he doesn't know where he's going to be living, and he's probably going to live with roommates. The dog is really anxious, and it would just be miserable for her.

But other than that verbal agreement, there's no reason he should have her. He can't afford to take care of her. I pay for 100% of her care. I'm the one that takes her to the vet. I'm the one that walks her. Plus, he doesn't know where he's going to be living, and he's probably going to live with roommates. The dog is really anxious, and it would just be miserable for her.

He even acknowledged that, you know, in the days after the breakup that... you know, it would be really hard for him to take her away from the only family she's ever known and the only place she's ever known. And honestly, I just don't trust him anymore. And I don't think he can take care of her.

He even acknowledged that, you know, in the days after the breakup that... you know, it would be really hard for him to take her away from the only family she's ever known and the only place she's ever known. And honestly, I just don't trust him anymore. And I don't think he can take care of her.

He seems to think I'm using the dog as leverage, but I really just want what's best for her and for me, and that's to not see him again. I told him that he was emotionally abusive, but he ignored that. I don't know how to get him to see how much he hurt me and how to convince him to just cut his losses and accept the fact that he lost me and the dog.

He seems to think I'm using the dog as leverage, but I really just want what's best for her and for me, and that's to not see him again. I told him that he was emotionally abusive, but he ignored that. I don't know how to get him to see how much he hurt me and how to convince him to just cut his losses and accept the fact that he lost me and the dog.

Dan Savage, I love you and I love Randy Rainbow, but I have to tell you, as somebody who's been to plenty of nudist camps and has played plenty of different sports at nudist camps, I can assure you, No one is having erections. That is not a thing. I've played volleyball. I've played pickleball. It is not a thing that you're going to get a heart on while trying to play sports. I promise you that.

Dan Savage, I love you and I love Randy Rainbow, but I have to tell you, as somebody who's been to plenty of nudist camps and has played plenty of different sports at nudist camps, I can assure you, No one is having erections. That is not a thing. I've played volleyball. I've played pickleball. It is not a thing that you're going to get a heart on while trying to play sports. I promise you that.