Vanessa Marin

So, like, just laugh about it.

This is silly.

This is funny.

You know, it's not that every conversation has to be that you're trying to achieve something.

It just becomes this more comfortable topic between the two of you.

Yeah.

I mean, read the room, you know, if your partner's like in the middle of doing a ton of things or obviously really stressed out and are a bad mood, probably that's not going to be the best time to like, Hey babe, what's your favorite sexual memory with me?

So maybe like more a quiet time, like maybe before bed between the two of you or, you know, if you're out on a walk together or something like that.

Connection.

Connection is the second conversation.

So we like to think of physical and emotional intimacy as two sides of the same coin.

A lot of people were surprised to see that, oh, one of the five conversations is about emotional intimacy.

I thought this book was about sex.

But we really think that physical and emotional intimacy are just deeply entwined.

And this can be an issue for a lot of couples.

We've found...

People tend to fall into one of two camps.

You either want to feel emotionally connected before you have sex, or sex for you is a way that opens up emotional connection.

That's how you feel the most connected to your partner.

Do you have a sense of what type you might be?