Vanessa Marin

A lot of men will say, like, that's when I feel the closest to my partner.

I'm the most open.

I'm vulnerable.

Like, that's when I feel the closest.

But what do most of us do right after we have sex?

We jump up and we go about our day.

We get on our phones.

We go to the bathroom.

We're missing that opportunity.

I call it aftercare, that moment after sex to really, like, linger together.

that in that intimacy that you've just built and created so if a man were to tell his partner just like I feel so close to you right now I love you that was amazing thank you like it doesn't have to be complicated simple something simple like that that would go a really long way in helping women recognize like oh this isn't just a this isn't just a physical release that he's looking for he actually wants to connect with me

Before, yes.

So, okay, I always used to use the phrase, you know, women want more emotional intimacy.

And Xander and I had so many great conversations about this.

He said, he told me, you know, a lot of men, we hear the phrase emotional intimacy, and it just, we don't know what that means.

Like, it just kind of feels big and scary and like, I don't know.

You know, and as men, you're socialized not to be emotional, right?

You're not supposed to show your feelings.

That's not what a real man does.

So it's harder for you guys to understand what that means.