Vanessa Marin

I want him to get to have that experience of like, oh, I made her feel so good.

I made her orgasm.

You know, I was thinking so much more about my partner's experience and their pleasure than my own experience.

And, yeah, that's what so many of us women are socialized to do.

It's more important for him to have a good experience, more important to pay attention to him and make sure he feels good and his ego is protected and we can sacrifice ourselves.

And so I really want women to stop doing that for ourselves and to recognize that men don't want us to be doing that either.

Oh, yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

There's not any proper scientific research that I've seen on the numbers, but we've polled our community before and something like 95% of women said that they've faked at least once in their life.

And we asked if you're currently faking orgasm with your partner.

I believe it was around 37% of women said.

And some women, someone will say, I don't fake it, but it just doesn't happen.

And neither of us, we don't talk about it openly.

So it just, you know, it just happens like that.

So that's another big percentage of women too, that they're not necessarily faking it, but they're still not having them.

It's not good.

I mentioned earlier the connection between enjoyment and desire.

It sounds so obvious, but most of us don't make that connection.

The dynamic that I hear about the most frequently is the woman's the one that has lower desire.