Vanessa Marin

And I think a lot of women don't get that.

And a lot of women, we sabotage our own ability to feel that pleasure because we won't allow him to focus on us.

We fake orgasms so he gets the idea that what he's doing is working even though it's not.

We tell him,

Oh, you know, we let him touch us for a few seconds.

Like, okay, let's move on.

It's fine.

You don't have to.

Go ahead.

You know, so it's like men are trying to give us a gift and we are pushing it away.

because it feels easier.

I mean, I faked a lot of orgasms in my life and there were a lot of reasons for it.

So sometimes it was, primarily it was, I didn't know what I needed.

And so it felt embarrassing.

I felt like, I don't know what to tell a partner.

I don't know how to instruct him.

I might as well just fake it instead of making him fumble around and neither of us really knows what we're doing.

So, I mean, that was the primary reason, but sometimes it was just, I just want sex to be over.

I'm ready for it to be done.

A lot of times it was, I want him to feel like he's done a good job.