Vanessa Marin
👤 PersonAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
It's always the woman, and she's always blaming herself.
What's wrong with me?
I must be broken.
Something must be wrong with me.
It's all my fault.
My husband always wants sex, and I never want it.
And what they don't recognize is that connection between enjoyment and desire.
If you are not enjoying the sex that you're having, it makes zero sense for you to crave it.
I call this the mushy broccoli problem.
So do you ever find yourself just absolutely craving a bowl of steamed, mushy, unseasoned broccoli?
No?
Do you think anything is wrong with you for not wanting that?
Of course not.
But the same thing is true with sex.
There are so many women who, again, it's not a fault.
It's not their fault.
It's not their partner's fault.
It's just this misinformation and misunderstandings.
But there's so many women who are having mushy broccoli sex and then beating themselves up for not wanting more of it.
So the problem is not when a woman comes to us and says, I have a low libido, fix me.