Vanessa Marin

And it makes them feel more motivated to do that actual thing.

So that's a good one.

And another thing with feedback, we have a little game that we call the eye exam game.

So, you know, when you're getting your vision tested and they show you, okay, put the little, you know, contraption on, like, okay, which one is more clear?

One or two?

When you just have two options to choose from, it's pretty easy to pick one, right?

Like, you don't go into that exam saying, here's how I want my vision to look like.

Like, they just choose one or two.

So you can do the same thing with sex.

So let's say you're just stroking your partner's arm.

Try stroking it one way and then maybe try a deeper pressure, more of a massage.

Ask your partner, which one do you like better?

Do you like it better when I do this or when I do this?

So as the person receiving that touch, it's easier to choose, because that's something that comes up for so many of us women.

We don't know how to give feedback.

It's, I don't know what I need to orgasm.

I don't know what feels good, so I don't know what to tell you.

A lot of us, we put this pressure on ourselves.

We think, like, if a man asks, hey, what do you want?

It's like I feel like I've got to write down this 10-page manifesto of, okay, first do this and then do this.