Vanessa Marin

And again, that surprised me too, because two to three times a month,

doesn't seem like the most.

So that was really interesting to see.

But I do think, you know, multiple times a week for most couples is gonna be beneficial.

And what I say is that there's a certain inertia that comes into place with sex.

Do you remember inertia from high school physics class?

It was like the object in motion stays in motion and object at rest stays at rest.

That is very true when it comes to sex.

So the more you get used to not having sex, the easier and easier it is each night to like, okay, no, just go to sleep.

Okay, we'll go to sleep again.

But the more sex that you do have, the easier it feels to keep having sex.

So Xander and I will have seasons of our relationship where we just have sex every day.

And the easier it feels to just keep going every single day.

So that's not necessarily, you know, again, the right thing for every couple, but I think couples should experiment with it.

And again, the bottom line should be that you're making an active effort to have sex more often than you feel the desire for it.

The worst time of day is very last thing at night.

And that is unfortunately when most couples have sex.

Okay, if you're feeling great at the very end of the night, sure, by all means, go for it.

I want you to have sex whenever it feels good for you.

But the pattern that most couples get into is we have this idea in our heads that sex is the last thing that we do at night.