Vanessa Marin

And at first it was just like an observation, like, yeah, when was it?

And then it kind of hit me like a tidal wave, like, I don't remember the last time we were intimate.

And I'm not sure I even have really been missing it all that much.

And so I've had that experience of what the heck happened to us.

Why did we go from this incredible chemistry to I can't even remember.

And so there are a bunch of different reasons why this happens.

So let's start with first just purely physiological.

Our bodies are not capable of sustaining that level of intensity for longer than six to 12 months.

So the chemical processes that happen in our brain are so intense, so overwhelming.

It's the equivalent of being high on cocaine, essentially.

We're literally addicted to that person.

We can't get enough of them, right?

But our brains are just physiologically incapable of maintaining those same levels of neurotransmitters for longer than about a year, if you're lucky.

Physically, it's just not even possible.

But making it even worse...

A lot of us take our foot off the gas once we've gotten into a relationship.

And if you think about like every romance that you've seen on TV and in the movies, the focus is always on like getting the girl, right?

Or like getting together and there's something that's in your way, something little you have to overcome and then now you're together and you live happily ever after.

And so so many of us have that idea in our heads of that's how it goes.

Once I get the person, once I lock them down, we're committed, we're married, whatever it is, like we're good, right?