Vanessa Marin

I like you.

You're fun to spend time with, right?

Oh, yeah.

Yeah.

Initiating is wildly, wildly vulnerable.

You're talking about initiating sex in particular?

Yeah.

Yeah.

We don't give enough credit to how vulnerable it is to initiate.

And in male-female relationships, you know, it's almost always the man who's doing the initiating.

That's kind of the idea that we have.

Like, yeah, the guy is supposed to want it more, so he's supposed to initiate.

And I think as women, a lot of us don't recognize how vulnerable that is, how hard it is to put yourself out there and ask to be intimate.

You're putting yourself in the position to be turned down.

And anytime you get turned down for anything, it sucks.

But particularly when it's around something as intimate as sex, it really hurts.

And this is another area where I think we really get ourselves into a lot of trouble by thinking of sex as this purely physical act.

So a lot of women...

their partner will initiate.

And a lot of women will be kind of annoyed by it.