Vanessa Marin

And so a lot of us just go into coasting mode and we stop doing the things that helped us feel so connected to our person in the first place.

Can I tell you one of my favorite rules for your sex life?

Okay, it's called fuck first.

So before you go out to eat, go to a party, any sort of event, have sex first.

So many of us have this idea, especially with date night, we think, oh, you go out to the restaurant, you have a nice date, and then you come home and you have sex.

But let's be real, you go out to the restaurant, you overeat, you over drink, you come home, you're bloated, you're gassy, you're uncomfortable, you just want to put on your PJs and put Netflix on and sit on the couch, right?

Like nobody wants to have sex after a big date night out.

So this is something so practical, so simple, but it's literally game changing.

Have sex first.

Then go out on date night.

Then you're not going to be bloated, too full.

And also it feels like this sexy little surprise between the two of you, this little secret between the two of you.

So the date night just feels even more fun and flirty than it would otherwise.

Absolutely.

Yeah.

The way that we take care of our body heavily impacts our desire for sex, how we show up during sex.

And, you know, I can tell a little bit of Xander's story, too.

Like at the beginning of our relationship, he was in a really stressful job, working very long hours, trying to climb that corporate ladder, be a good provider.

And he started stress eating, you know, and all of a sudden it was he's gained a lot of weight.

He was feeling really uncomfortable in his own body.