Vanessa Marin

And I said, do you feel self-conscious of your body when we're having sex?

Why would I be self-conscious of my body?

I'm having sex with you.

He could not comprehend it.

Maybe you can't either.

He could not comprehend that that's where my brain is trained to go.

Is he seeing my belly flab in this position?

So men can really help women out

by complimenting us, by telling us how sexy you think our bodies are, by reassuring us, like, the things that you think you see in your body, I am not seeing those things.

And this is especially true for, you know, women who have given birth and they feel like, you know, I don't look the same.

If you've been together a long time, like, oh, he probably wishes my body looked like it did when we were in our 20s and we met, and now I'm in my 40s and things are starting to droop and sag and all that.

Like, it's really hard for us.

Duration.

Oh, that's a great question.

This is another, like, it's a really common misunderstanding between couples, and it's a conversation most couples have never had.

Most men think the longer, the better.

You know, you grow up hearing some songs like, we'll go all night long, you know, do it till the sun comes up.

Like, you get that idea in your head.

It's supposed to last a long time.

When we asked women, though, women don't want it to last that long.