Vanessa Marin

So those two kinds of touch in particular,

Yeah, kissing is another one.

A lot of us don't kiss that often or we just do a tiny little peck.

This is another pattern that Xander and I fell into.

And so we actually created a rule for ourselves where now every night before bed, we make out with each other.

It has to be at least like 30 seconds.

It doesn't have to be a super long time, but we realized we were only kissing during sex.

And we realized like, I miss making out with you just for the sake of making out, not as an initiation, not to get things going, not during sex.

Like, yes, those things are fun too, but there's something so fun about making out just for the sake of making out.

It reminds us of being like teenagers again, when you can make out with somebody for hours and it was just like the most exciting thing in the world, right?

So like you can try, you know, try that little trick again, too Like when we first started doing it We made an explicit rule of we are not allowed to have sex after this because that's not the point This is not a get ourselves turned on to have sex.

This is let's just make out again for the sake of making out So that's been a really fun ritual that we have in our relationship but another thing that couples can do is ask your partner and

What are your three favorite places and ways to be touched?

So yeah, I'm curious to know some of yours.

Like if your wife were to ask you, like what are your absolute favorite ways to be touched or places that you like to be touched in a non-sexual way?

A hug.

Interesting.

Do you have a hard time receiving touch?

Okay, just not something you think about.

I don't think so.