Vanessa Marin

And the reality is like that's not what men want.

Like men don't want pity sex.

Another huge misconception.

So many women think like, oh, I'll just let him have it.

Men don't want that.

You don't like when we just lay there and, you know, we're not participating like you want us to participate, too.

So, yeah, I want to be careful in saying this is not you have to do it for him.

Otherwise, he's going to sleep with somebody else.

But yes, if you know, if you're not connecting with each other, then it's a lot more common that people look for that connection with somebody else.

Absolutely.

We have this idea that men are always the one that have the higher sex drives.

But when we polled our audience, we found that in 45% of male-female relationships, the woman is the one who has the higher sex drive.

45%.

So that's just a casual Instagram poll.

You know, it's not scientific, but we have over a million people there.

So it's a pretty large sample size.

And that blew people's minds when we shared that because there are so many women feeling alone and broken, so many men feeling ashamed about that, you know, because we all think it's supposed to be the guy who wants it more.

But it's very, very common for it to be the woman who does.

And there's nothing wrong with that.

Yeah.