Vanessa Marin

Unfortunately, choking is something that a lot of younger people are doing now.

It's become a pretty normalized sexual act.

And a lot of people are doing it without fully asking for consent or knowing how to properly do it.

And the reality is I want people to do whatever brings them pleasure and makes them feel good.

So there's zero judgment about the specific activity.

Whatever people want to do in their own bedroom is their business.

But it does concern me that people are not talking about it openly because it is an extreme act and it is something that can cause damage.

There is some research that is just starting to come out right now showing that people who are repeatedly choked during sex are having lasting neurological impacts.

So this is brand new research.

There's still a lot more to explore, but there are implications to this activity.

So I want to make sure people are doing it.

that they are making sure both partners are into it.

They're talking about it beforehand and they're doing it properly.

So I can tell you really quickly, what you want to do is make sure you're exerting pressure on the sides of the throat.

Never, ever, ever on the front of the throat.

The front is too sensitive.

So it's just on the sides.

I would say both.

Men are definitely the ones who are initiating it and men are the ones doing it because it's been normalized by porn.

It's a pretty common activity that you see in porn.