Vanessa Van Edwards

Yeah, and I started switching it and getting a reply almost every time from anyone.

Like anyone I'd reach out to, I was like, they're gonna reply to this.

And I started doing a few things.

In the first sentence, I would just try to find, you know, spark dopamine, essentially, is what I was doing.

I was looking for a mutual connection we had, and I'd speak about the mutual connection.

This person likes me, if you like them, yeah, trust.

I didn't even know that, and I was just doing it, right?

And it was working.

I was like, okay, let me keep doing this.

Let me find someone that we know and comment.

And I would always try to have a conversation to get some intel on them.

Can you tell me something about so and so?

And I would speak about that information.

And I would speak into them.

I would also look for a couple other

areas of interest that we have in common.

And I would try to have three different things in common in the first sentence or two.

You know, something that they did that I'd experienced before or a place they're from or whatever.

Some mutual interest.

Maybe that's competence, maybe.