Vanessa Van Edwards

One of the variables was to everyone had to make a list of kids they liked. And the most popular kids had the longest lists. Meaning they were constantly thinking, I like that about you. I like that about you. This was like relief for me. Because it meant I don't have to show up as impressive or funny or extroverted or be good at sports because I'm not.

One of the variables was to everyone had to make a list of kids they liked. And the most popular kids had the longest lists. Meaning they were constantly thinking, I like that about you. I like that about you. This was like relief for me. Because it meant I don't have to show up as impressive or funny or extroverted or be good at sports because I'm not.

All I have to do is aggressively like people. So if you want to be attractive, if you want to create bonds, friend-wise, romantic-wise, what I want you to be doing is you're asking these questions, looking for me-tos, and then you're thinking, how can I like this person more? Like, what could I ask? What could I find out that I can authentically be like, I like you? And then saying it.

All I have to do is aggressively like people. So if you want to be attractive, if you want to create bonds, friend-wise, romantic-wise, what I want you to be doing is you're asking these questions, looking for me-tos, and then you're thinking, how can I like this person more? Like, what could I ask? What could I find out that I can authentically be like, I like you? And then saying it.

like I cannot tell you my best friendships have started when I don't play it cool I do not believe in playing it cool it doesn't work I literally I'm like I like you will you be my friend yeah I'm like I have a six and a half year old and a two and a half year old daughter and I watch them on the playground and it's funny they're they're like this they literally will sit in the sandbox my daughter was like do you like trucks and the boy was like I like trucks

like I cannot tell you my best friendships have started when I don't play it cool I do not believe in playing it cool it doesn't work I literally I'm like I like you will you be my friend yeah I'm like I have a six and a half year old and a two and a half year old daughter and I watch them on the playground and it's funny they're they're like this they literally will sit in the sandbox my daughter was like do you like trucks and the boy was like I like trucks

And she was like, I like trucks too. I was like, me too moment. Good job, Claire. And then she was like, you want to be my friend? He was like, yeah. That's it. They're friends. And I was like, this is it. We actually knew how to do this as kids. It's what we used to do. And we've kind of, you know, we're too cool for it.

And she was like, I like trucks too. I was like, me too moment. Good job, Claire. And then she was like, you want to be my friend? He was like, yeah. That's it. They're friends. And I was like, this is it. We actually knew how to do this as kids. It's what we used to do. And we've kind of, you know, we're too cool for it.

Oh, do you?

Oh, do you?

Can we be friends, Jay? Yeah, I know.

Can we be friends, Jay? Yeah, I know.

Also, like, I'm allergic to it.

Also, like, I'm allergic to it.

Like, I don't do well with too cool people. Like, if you can't even show me your liking or you're kind of wanting to put a wall up, we're not going to be good friends because I love level three conversations. I like vulnerability. I like oversharing. So that's like a test also is like, I think we would be good friends. I like you. And if they're like, eh. I'm like, cool. Like, that's cool.

Like, I don't do well with too cool people. Like, if you can't even show me your liking or you're kind of wanting to put a wall up, we're not going to be good friends because I love level three conversations. I like vulnerability. I like oversharing. So that's like a test also is like, I think we would be good friends. I like you. And if they're like, eh. I'm like, cool. Like, that's cool.

Like, I would rather take the shot than miss it.

Like, I would rather take the shot than miss it.

And so I think like, if you're listening, I think it's like, let's, if you like someone like show it, search for those me too moments. And then if you like them, well, first of all, search for reasons to like them. And if you like them, say it. That right there is like the best way to try to find your people. That's going to find them.

And so I think like, if you're listening, I think it's like, let's, if you like someone like show it, search for those me too moments. And then if you like them, well, first of all, search for reasons to like them. And if you like them, say it. That right there is like the best way to try to find your people. That's going to find them.