Vanessa Van Edwards

Excuse me, I got my conversation started. I'm available, whether that's in work or at play. And then they're with someone who's doing that to them, right? You're with someone who's like, so where are you from? You have a lot of siblings? Okay, so here's how you break that social script. One is I want you to think of what are the three questions that you're asked most?

Excuse me, I got my conversation started. I'm available, whether that's in work or at play. And then they're with someone who's doing that to them, right? You're with someone who's like, so where are you from? You have a lot of siblings? Okay, so here's how you break that social script. One is I want you to think of what are the three questions that you're asked most?

So I have the same questions I'm asked over and over again in social settings. And it's usually, what do you do? Where are you from? How did you get into that line of work? That's a big one, I get. Okay, so the biggest mistake you can make is you are bored by those answers and you show it. Oh, I'm from LA. Okay. It's like, right? It's like, yes, yes, I'm from LA, but it ends the conversation.

So I have the same questions I'm asked over and over again in social settings. And it's usually, what do you do? Where are you from? How did you get into that line of work? That's a big one, I get. Okay, so the biggest mistake you can make is you are bored by those answers and you show it. Oh, I'm from LA. Okay. It's like, right? It's like, yes, yes, I'm from LA, but it ends the conversation.

So I want you to think of what's a way that you could answer that question that gives a hook or a story or it's a funny moment and it is a bridge to you asking them something else back.

So I want you to think of what's a way that you could answer that question that gives a hook or a story or it's a funny moment and it is a bridge to you asking them something else back.

How can you answer those questions that's going to slightly shift or transform the conversation and makes you more charismatic? So I even think like if someone were to ask you, how are you? You can answer it, oh, seven out of 10 today, right? Or like better on the inside than the outside, right? Like whatever it is, like just like break the script.

How can you answer those questions that's going to slightly shift or transform the conversation and makes you more charismatic? So I even think like if someone were to ask you, how are you? You can answer it, oh, seven out of 10 today, right? Or like better on the inside than the outside, right? Like whatever it is, like just like break the script.

So if you break the script with something purposeful and you're like, okay, when someone asks me where I'm from and I say LA, I know I don't want to talk about LA. Yes, yes. Right? Oh, I've been to Austin. I love Austin. Oh, yeah, tell me about Austin. Do you like tacos? I like tacos too. Right? So, like, it weaves. And so, what are the three questions you get asked the most often?

So if you break the script with something purposeful and you're like, okay, when someone asks me where I'm from and I say LA, I know I don't want to talk about LA. Yes, yes. Right? Oh, I've been to Austin. I love Austin. Oh, yeah, tell me about Austin. Do you like tacos? I like tacos too. Right? So, like, it weaves. And so, what are the three questions you get asked the most often?

And what are three answers that you can use to get you to more Me Too moments that authentically like them? The other thing you can do, my last, oh, when I'm like out, I've been trying and trying to steer is I will play verbal games. And I've actually never talked about this on a podcast before, but so we're going to see how this sounds. But I really do this, which is I love guessing games.

And what are three answers that you can use to get you to more Me Too moments that authentically like them? The other thing you can do, my last, oh, when I'm like out, I've been trying and trying to steer is I will play verbal games. And I've actually never talked about this on a podcast before, but so we're going to see how this sounds. But I really do this, which is I love guessing games.

Like I love them. So if someone's like, how many siblings do you have? I'll be like, guess. Yeah.

Like I love them. So if someone's like, how many siblings do you have? I'll be like, guess. Yeah.

And I am so curious what they say, right? Because then, first of all, people are like, what? Like, they're like surprised that I have to say guess. I'm like, guess. What do you think I am?

And I am so curious what they say, right? Because then, first of all, people are like, what? Like, they're like surprised that I have to say guess. I'm like, guess. What do you think I am?

Four, okay. You missed the middle one. And so I have an older brother. I was going one, three, five. Like odd numbers. I have an older brother and three younger sisters. Wow. And so you can guess. And so that already makes it way more playful, right? It's always fun. Like if someone guesses I'm an only, I'm like, how dare you? How dare you? No, but then we talk about onlys.

Four, okay. You missed the middle one. And so I have an older brother. I was going one, three, five. Like odd numbers. I have an older brother and three younger sisters. Wow. And so you can guess. And so that already makes it way more playful, right? It's always fun. Like if someone guesses I'm an only, I'm like, how dare you? How dare you? No, but then we talk about onlys.

And then I, instead of asking them back, I say, can I guess yours?

And then I, instead of asking them back, I say, can I guess yours?