Vanessa Van Edwards

And like, sometimes I get it right. And by the way, that feels really good.

And like, sometimes I get it right. And by the way, that feels really good.

Oh gosh, I don't know. Oldest. No, I tell you what, don't answer. I just yelled, sorry. I get real serious. Okay, I'm leaving. I'm leaving the conversation. Youngest, youngest.

Oh gosh, I don't know. Oldest. No, I tell you what, don't answer. I just yelled, sorry. I get real serious. Okay, I'm leaving. I'm leaving the conversation. Youngest, youngest.

You're going to write the first time.

You're going to write the first time.

One younger sister. Okay, so I… So it's just like fun to play the game and then… Yeah, it is. You kind of like guess and then I can be like, oh, I didn't peg you. I was thinking oldest or youngest. So you could kind of have the back and forth that totally changes the dynamics of the conversation. Yeah. And so that's my last resort is you can play a game with them. I love that.

One younger sister. Okay, so I… So it's just like fun to play the game and then… Yeah, it is. You kind of like guess and then I can be like, oh, I didn't peg you. I was thinking oldest or youngest. So you could kind of have the back and forth that totally changes the dynamics of the conversation. Yeah. And so that's my last resort is you can play a game with them. I love that.

I also love like if, I got this actually from Twitter and it totally works. If someone says they're from something, so where are you from? I'm from London. The Windy City. But I always say the Windy City.

I also love like if, I got this actually from Twitter and it totally works. If someone says they're from something, so where are you from? I'm from London. The Windy City. But I always say the Windy City.

It's not the Windy City. Isn't that like Seattle or something? I don't even know. I don't know. It's San Francisco. Chicago. Chicago or something like that. But you just like, you can make like funny responses back and then people, and you have a band. It just broke the script. Right. Like being a little playful in conversation also can create mutual moments because you'll find your person. Yes.

It's not the Windy City. Isn't that like Seattle or something? I don't even know. I don't know. It's San Francisco. Chicago. Chicago or something like that. But you just like, you can make like funny responses back and then people, and you have a band. It just broke the script. Right. Like being a little playful in conversation also can create mutual moments because you'll find your person. Yes.

Right. Like I try to be funny occasionally. And if you laugh at my jokes, we're going to be friends. If you don't laugh at my jokes, it's not going to go well.

Right. Like I try to be funny occasionally. And if you laugh at my jokes, we're going to be friends. If you don't laugh at my jokes, it's not going to go well.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah. I also think it's so much pressure to be interesting because what is interesting is different for different people. And so if you're trying to be interesting, it's worse than fake it till you make it. It's what do I have to do to perform for you? And I don't think interactions should be a performance. They should be intentional and you're building towards something, which is... Do I belong?

Yeah. I also think it's so much pressure to be interesting because what is interesting is different for different people. And so if you're trying to be interesting, it's worse than fake it till you make it. It's what do I have to do to perform for you? And I don't think interactions should be a performance. They should be intentional and you're building towards something, which is... Do I belong?

Do I feel accepted by you? And this is like a question that I want everyone to ask themselves, especially when you think about those first impression words. Sometimes people who trigger you badly, it's because you don't feel safe. I don't mean necessarily physically safe. I mean emotionally safe, where there's topics that you're a little scared to bring up or

Do I feel accepted by you? And this is like a question that I want everyone to ask themselves, especially when you think about those first impression words. Sometimes people who trigger you badly, it's because you don't feel safe. I don't mean necessarily physically safe. I mean emotionally safe, where there's topics that you're a little scared to bring up or