Vanessa Van Edwards

So when they tested people, they found that they, subconsciously, their resonance matched whoever's most important person in the room, their own resonance.

So when they tested people, they found that they, subconsciously, their resonance matched whoever's most important person in the room, their own resonance.

Okay. So luckily one is now that you know it, it's going to be very easy for you to hear yourself do it. So at home, if you wouldn't mind trying this with me, I want you to hear the highest end of your range versus the lowest end of your range. Everyone has a natural range. So first let's start with the highest. So take a deep breath and say hello at the top of your breath. Hello. Hello.

Okay. So luckily one is now that you know it, it's going to be very easy for you to hear yourself do it. So at home, if you wouldn't mind trying this with me, I want you to hear the highest end of your range versus the lowest end of your range. Everyone has a natural range. So first let's start with the highest. So take a deep breath and say hello at the top of your breath. Hello. Hello.

That's our natural highest end of our range. I never want you to sound like that.

That's our natural highest end of our range. I never want you to sound like that.

Right. Maybe your dog. I see people go, hello, to their dog. Maybe to a baby.

Right. Maybe your dog. I see people go, hello, to their dog. Maybe to a baby.

Babies and dogs. Totally fine. Babies and dogs. That's it. Because you're signaling tightness, high anxiety, and we don't want that. And by the way, this happens to everyone. We hold our breath as we're answering the phone. Hello. You've just given away all your confidence. Okay. So that's the highest. Let's try the lowest. So take a couple deep breaths.

Babies and dogs. Totally fine. Babies and dogs. That's it. Because you're signaling tightness, high anxiety, and we don't want that. And by the way, this happens to everyone. We hold our breath as we're answering the phone. Hello. You've just given away all your confidence. Okay. So that's the highest. Let's try the lowest. So take a couple deep breaths.

Relax your vocal cords, relax your shoulders, relax your jaw, relax your mouth. And then I want you to say hello on the out-breath. It's going to sound like this. Hello. Hello. That's the lowest end of your range. What happens here is when we take in breath and we speak on the out-breath, it forces our vocal cords to relax and it puts us in our lower range. So here's the difference.

Relax your vocal cords, relax your shoulders, relax your jaw, relax your mouth. And then I want you to say hello on the out-breath. It's going to sound like this. Hello. Hello. That's the lowest end of your range. What happens here is when we take in breath and we speak on the out-breath, it forces our vocal cords to relax and it puts us in our lower range. So here's the difference.

Here's how I want you to say hello. Let's turn to the phone first. So instead of hello, I want you to go hello. Hello. Totally different. Only the second one? The second one. Yeah. Right? So here's the bad one. Hello. That's too high. Versus on the out-breath. Hello.

Here's how I want you to say hello. Let's turn to the phone first. So instead of hello, I want you to go hello. Hello. Totally different. Only the second one? The second one. Yeah. Right? So here's the bad one. Hello. That's too high. Versus on the out-breath. Hello.

It's still me, but I sound totally different. Totally different. You would treat me differently based on those two hellos. I started off by saying, your cues change how people treat you. If you speak with confidence, people are going to treat you with more respect. And so it is critical that we speak in that lower tone. So when I was like, hey... I didn't go, hey.

It's still me, but I sound totally different. Totally different. You would treat me differently based on those two hellos. I started off by saying, your cues change how people treat you. If you speak with confidence, people are going to treat you with more respect. And so it is critical that we speak in that lower tone. So when I was like, hey... I didn't go, hey.

It was so awkward. Oh, my God. So a nice low hey for both men and women. This works. And can we just hey everyone?

It was so awkward. Oh, my God. So a nice low hey for both men and women. This works. And can we just hey everyone?

I like that. Let's just do, like, life is too short to not hey a person. You're like, I kind of like their vibe. Yeah. Like, let's just hey everyone. And if you see me out in an airport, you just hey me. And I'll laugh. Yeah.

I like that. Let's just do, like, life is too short to not hey a person. You're like, I kind of like their vibe. Yeah. Like, let's just hey everyone. And if you see me out in an airport, you just hey me. And I'll laugh. Yeah.