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So, I mean, if you want to say something, you do, you definitely like, you could lose a friendship and you could upset her greatly.

But then also you could,

also calls her to force her to kind of hold a mirror up to the situation and have to actually face up if it is something that she's unhappy with but there's obviously a few alarming things that you've said there in terms of the red pill content that he used to be in that he has certain rules that she has to abide by and that she now kind of it's a kind of more traditional setup with her relying on him and he's almost like the man of the house or whatever um

That's a very tricky one.

And if you're saying.

Yeah, but you're also like, she's also saying she doesn't know their relationship.

So like you're kind of, what are you basing?

What are you basing all of that on?

She's saying that other, because she's saying basically other people feel the same way.

A mutual friend is also concerned after seeing the way he talked to her, but also saying she's basing this on experience with other friends who've come out of abusive relationships and messy divorces.

And they all say, I wish someone had checked in with me sooner.

So it could be just a slight word.

Like, it depends how you package it up.

Like, you know, you go in softly, softly and say, you know, you wait for that moment and you say, I don't want you to feel this is an overstep, but I just wanted to check in.

Are you happy?

Yeah.

Like, is this, this is the life that you want?

Cause obviously you're happy is of paramount importance to me.

Do you know?

There's ways you can do it where you don't hopefully cause the whole situation to implode, but also you are kind of placing yourself in someone else's space.