Wendy K. Laidlaw

When was the last time that you had fun?

When was the last time you had a lovely Epsom salt bath and soaked in it with candles and then, you know, realised how relaxed you felt for the first time in hours or days or weeks?

Because when all these elements are taken care of, when the mirror is being back to ourselves, are we taking care of us?

Because there is no army going to be rushing in to help you.

And there is no knight on shining armour to coming in and helping you.

There is nobody else but you that can take care of you.

When we take care of ourselves, then we can handle whatever life throws our way.

Then we can hold the mirror back to others who take no responsibility or try and pass back any of their projections.

and disengage and detach from their negative behaviour or energy that may be negatively impacting, preventing your healing.

My gorgeous grandmother used to say as well, there are givers and takers in the world, but the best place is to live in the middle.

And I guess that's where the challenge lies.

I know there's lots of endobosses that fear that, oh, taking care of themselves is selfish.

No, it's essential.

It's self-essential.

If you don't take care of you there literally is as I've said a couple of seconds ago nobody else is going to do it and I know that that's sad and there may be a grieving process required for that because we have all these ideas of what certain labels and titles should mean but ultimately we have to take care of us.

And I promise you that if you recognize, you know, the power of your pen, that the pen is powerful and paper just, and keep it just for your eyes only, then you can move in the ebb and flow of life and the disappointments, the upsets, and it will help you navigate the challenging people, places and things more easily.

When you notice the weight of sadness as you realize someone was not who you thought they were, write out your feelings.

Don't try and run away from your feelings because they're waiting for you.

They're waiting for you to have them and they will pass.

You will move through them.