Wendy K. Laidlaw

In fact, I'm adapting the program slightly.

So at the very beginning, they have to do a video so that I don't want them to forget where they've come from because I want them to celebrate the growth and the transformation and the hard work that they put in to get where they want to go.

But if you've got...

You know, if you've got a lot of pressure coming your way, a lot of fear mongering from various professionals or various parents or work colleagues or whatever,

as humans, we want to be part of the pack, part of the tribe.

If we feel ostracized or put out by the pack, then there's that overwhelming natural fear of rejection and abandonment and from a primal level, death if we're ousted out.

So this is where conflict comes from.

This is where you'll get...

On this journey, we've all been conditioned the same way, especially as women.

We're conditioned to be seen and not heard, to sit pretty with a ribbon in our hair and not be booed to a goose, not say booed to a goose.

We're not supposed to be feisty, strong, enigmatic.

And as I say, I've got a couple of people coming into my podcast in the next couple of months.

An older woman who is like in her 78th year, yet 27 years ago, she was

physically crippled by the shame and guilt they've been projected onto her and we're actually going to be talking about that next week on the podcast and and and it's a phenomenal concept isn't it it's like how logically this is logical brain it goes but but how can how can that be you know i should just be able to dismiss it or or i'm sure it doesn't affect me but it's not till we start to do the journaling it's not till we start to write every morning when our brain is in that um not quite awake state but not quite sleeping

And they call it in certain sort of yoga terms of an alpha state.

An alpha state is almost like a sort of awakening aware state when you're not sleeping, but you're not fully awake.

And what's beautiful about writing your thoughts and feelings at that particular point is you tap into areas of your brain.

that you don't normally get access to.

Because once you're awake, you're in busy beta state, I think they call it, beta.

And then when you're asleep, you're in theta or delta.