Wendy K. Laidlaw

It's a very different exercise to typing it out.

So please use paper where you can.

If it's not possible to use pen and paper, then use your notes in your iPhone or indeed the new secure journal app on the phone.

But writing out, it allows a safe way to look and notice the situation from a wider perspective, not from reactionary or more from a responsive perspective rather than reactionary.

It allows you to get clarity in whatever is really happening.

But it also allows you to hold the mirror to yourself so another person cannot project their toxicity onto you and you internalise that or allow them to project shame or blame onto you either that may be internalised and is not yours to have.

In an ideal world, everybody would take responsibility for their own behaviour.

They would acknowledge their mistakes, their muck-ups or issues.

They would say sorry and be kind and compassionate enough and caring enough to say, I'm so sorry and own it.

However, even in fairy tales nowadays, that doesn't seem much, doesn't even happen.

But ultimately, what we need to remember when we're engaging with others, especially on this journey, you talk about the five P's, the five poisons, produce, products and property.

They're the easy bits, but people and past, they're the challenging, struggling things.

that we need to overcome.

And we can overcome them, but it takes time.

And of course, because we're changing our behavior, we're evolving.

As we go through the end of us journey, we're literally in a cocoon of chaos.

We're in this transformational journey from what was once a caterpillar in the cocoon now, one day about to be a butterfly.

But in that cocoon, there is chaos.

There is changes.

There is a retention of what we were once before.