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The one word that really jumped out was I feel ashamed, 90%. And then inferior and adequate, defective, and so forth, 85%. Alone in the process, 25%. That was very high. But then embarrassed and foolish and humiliated and self-conscious, again, 99%. And Hopeless and a bit discouraged and frightened. You know, that was 85 and then frustrated and stuck also at 85, if I'm reading that right.

The one word that really jumped out was I feel ashamed, 90%. And then inferior and adequate, defective, and so forth, 85%. Alone in the process, 25%. That was very high. But then embarrassed and foolish and humiliated and self-conscious, again, 99%. And Hopeless and a bit discouraged and frightened. You know, that was 85 and then frustrated and stuck also at 85, if I'm reading that right.

And angry was definitely part of it. Annoyed and irritated, upset at 85. And yeah, and then there was, I can't read that word. Let's see. Destabilized. Destabilized. There we go.

And angry was definitely part of it. Annoyed and irritated, upset at 85. And yeah, and then there was, I can't read that word. Let's see. Destabilized. Destabilized. There we go.

Yeah, really true. And I think we touch on that later in the process, if I remember correctly, Rhonda. And then we began to develop some of the negative thoughts around that and asked Rhonda. So when you think about this moment in time and you're going over the bridge, what are you telling yourself? What kind of thoughts are really jumping out at you?

Yeah, really true. And I think we touch on that later in the process, if I remember correctly, Rhonda. And then we began to develop some of the negative thoughts around that and asked Rhonda. So when you think about this moment in time and you're going over the bridge, what are you telling yourself? What kind of thoughts are really jumping out at you?

And maybe you could read a few of those, Rhonda.

And maybe you could read a few of those, Rhonda.

Yeah, and my heart really went out to you, Rhonda, when I started hearing those and just connecting with you on how scary that really did feel. And you're absolutely right, David. It was one of those moments where

Yeah, and my heart really went out to you, Rhonda, when I started hearing those and just connecting with you on how scary that really did feel. And you're absolutely right, David. It was one of those moments where

Those scared feelings are so limiting and really prevent us from having and prevent Rhonda from having the kind of life that she was really wanting and to be able to feel good about what she was doing with her driving.

Those scared feelings are so limiting and really prevent us from having and prevent Rhonda from having the kind of life that she was really wanting and to be able to feel good about what she was doing with her driving.

Well, that really, and to answer your question as well around why is this cognitive work so important, because it really set the stage for developing a different internal dialogue, right, an internal thought process. And that is really critical, especially as we start moving towards the exposure work, so that there is a different, again, a different internal dialogue going on.

Well, that really, and to answer your question as well around why is this cognitive work so important, because it really set the stage for developing a different internal dialogue, right, an internal thought process. And that is really critical, especially as we start moving towards the exposure work, so that there is a different, again, a different internal dialogue going on.

rather than telling myself that I'm an ass, right? Which is really, when you think about it, is pretty verbally abusive when you think about it. If you called another person an ass, if you do a kind of paradoxical double standard, your relationship with them would probably suffer significantly. And so to develop, you know, a good cognitive basis here and address the distortions and develop a...

rather than telling myself that I'm an ass, right? Which is really, when you think about it, is pretty verbally abusive when you think about it. If you called another person an ass, if you do a kind of paradoxical double standard, your relationship with them would probably suffer significantly. And so to develop, you know, a good cognitive basis here and address the distortions and develop a...

A more beneficial and positive thought process is paramount to the process succeeding.

A more beneficial and positive thought process is paramount to the process succeeding.

Yeah. Nice. Yeah, and that focus was important as well. And of course, we're getting to that stage where the miracle cure and the externalization of resistance and the magic button, magic dial, positive reframe, all of those elements are here. I don't know where we are in terms of time and how much of this we can cover.

Yeah. Nice. Yeah, and that focus was important as well. And of course, we're getting to that stage where the miracle cure and the externalization of resistance and the magic button, magic dial, positive reframe, all of those elements are here. I don't know where we are in terms of time and how much of this we can cover.