William Costello

It can be off-putting.

Is that right?

And I think you could say for good reason the modern world or workplace is kind of designed to neuter men's most aggressive tendencies.

You can't exactly get into a physical fight to settle something anymore in the workplace.

It's just not acceptable.

But you can spread gossip and that is kind of rewarded.

So in

That style of aggression, women will far succeed.

Have you ever done any bless his heart stuff?

Men do gossip too, right?

It's not like just a female thing.

This is where I think the insight from our ancestral history and the selection pressures men and women faced is so informative.

William, you fucking put a billboard above your head that says evolutionary psychology is real.

Okay, but no, the specific pressure.

So men have this deep ancestral history of coalitional value to each other.

So to express vulnerability is a massive liability and risk to you and to your allies.

So the message that I think struggling men that would be more effective than, oh, you can come cry on my shoulder, is we need you.

actually, and you're valuable.

Useful.

You're useful, and we need you to be stronger.