William Costello

example I always give is that dating apps don't allow a nice, charming Irish accent to compensate for being five foot seven, which leads me to believe I wouldn't get on so great on dating apps.

And that's true.

I mean, you know, the dating app Hinge, I heard the relationship science director talking with my friend Chris, that if women set their height preferences to six foot or over in America, they're reducing their mating pool down to just 18% of men.

And

If they set it to six foot three and over, they're reducing it down to just three percent of men.

So when you're skewing the sex ratio against you like that and encouraging men to see themselves as eligible men to see themselves as the scarcity, that's setting the deck against yourself for women, which is.

Yeah.

And in terms of like coming at it from an evolved mate preference point of view, the selection pressures that would have acted on female choosiness for height and formidability are that the idea of protection and ability to provision resources.

It's an example of evolutionary mismatch.

And it's obviously a very convenient one for me being five foot seven to talk about.

But maybe it's time we let that one go.

So I'm optimistic that the pendulum for women and their drives might swing back towards the middle.

What they want or what society reinforces?

Both kind of things, because they'll kind of work in tandem to some extent.

So it's not that long ago.

It's only a number of decades that women have really had the brakes taken off them in education and the workplace.

And they're beginning to kind of really shine now.

So it's a very novel kind of thing.

And it's like the thing to do of, oh, you know, make your feminist ancestors really proud.

You know, what would they think if you went to be a trad wife, stay at home mom, you know, it's kind of repellent, right?