William Costello

She's away from you, even just from a proximity point of view.

You are at risk, a bigger risk of losing her.

So it is a threat to you.

So a lot of men do choose that strategy, which is a pretty dark strategy.

dark finding but one we maybe need to reckon with as Richard Reeves points out women are beginning to outpace men so starkly so let's go back to your hypothetical sister what are we telling her

Yeah, I mean, it's just an artifact of the modern mating market that the sexes aren't really depending on each other as rolemates in the same way.

If we think even ancestrally, two of the main things that women used to rely on men for are protection, the bodyguard hypothesis, protection from other men.

and protection from the hostile forces of nature.

That's not really such a prescient factor anymore.

And also, so protection and provisioning resources.

If women are gathering their own resources, the state is protecting them as the bodyguard now, for a large degree.

they might choose to, you know, to just go their own way kind of thing.

We hear about men going their own way, but it actually might be the case that women are beginning to go their own way.

And, you know, it's just not obvious what a woman might get out of settling down.

And it might just be a

bleak truth we have to reckon with that for the past number of decades maybe centuries women had been perhaps settling with men that they ordinarily wouldn't want out of strict economic necessity or strict monogamy norms.

Yeah, I think the latter is probably more true.

I don't think we had generations of women who were like, oh, my God, what have I had to do?

I hate my husband.

I don't think that's the case.