William Stixrud
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322 appearances
2 recordings
1 series
first heard May 2019
last heard Jul 2021
William Stixrud’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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And I think that that's in part what what what the difference between empathy and pity is.
You know, that I I I'm pretty humble about knowing what's so what's supposed to happen in somebody's life.
So I be and I think that that so I I I personally and working with kids I work with, I assume that where they are is where they're supposed to be in in this world and I I try to focus on how do we help them, how do we support them, and not feel that something has terribly wrong or or or that this is a great tragedy. 'Cause I d I don't want kids to see themselves that way.
that's wonderful.
Well, I I I think in part because it it increases our sense of control.
We're we're doing something.
Well, not really, but at least eventually I make it unpleasant enough that it'll get it done.
You know, and I I think that in in my my experience working with with with kids who who don't get their schoolwork done or have trouble getting started on it, there's usually two explanations.
They have ADHD, they can't make themselves focus, or they're anxious and the major m manifestation of anxiety is avoidance.
And so in in in the self-driven child, we we we emphasize we we want kids to be clear about who's responsible for what.
And that's why we we we say to parents tell your kid I love you too much to fight with you about your homework.
Because I want to be clear about that that I I want to support you in any way I can, but I don't want to take responsibility for something that's yours.
And in many ways, that that kind of nagging that it allows anxious kids not to have to think about, I I better get started with my work.
wait until appearance nag and eventually they'll they get it done.
That allows them to avoid
And um with kids who have ADHD it just kinda just t tends to piss 'em off.
Eventually they'll that they they may get start off, they may not.
Uh but it's certainly not a very effective technique.
Ned, do you want to jump in?
just that I I I walk this walk too with with with my own kids and w one of whom uh could have educated herself.
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