Zerk

And Zerky Show, as always, I'm sending you lots.

did you guys ever have bunny ears in photos do you know what I'm talking about anyways peace

I want her to be real.

The version of her I have in my mind.

I want her to exist in front of me.

I want to be able to talk to her while we're sipping our coffee and discussing how good it is to be in a relationship together and how much we love each other.

But she doesn't exist.

Instead, what I'm faced with is somebody I've come to learn is, well, complaining about her problems that she's not going to change, is making everything in this conversation feel like a red alarm in a 737 cockpit as a aircraft pilot looks at it and is like, this plane's going down.

Why is it so easy to romanticize somebody

And then why do we repeat that process when we are delivered a nice slice of reality?

Well, I think it's because accepting somebody's flaws is very difficult, especially when you haven't accepted your own.

I like to romanticize myself as much as I like to romanticize other people.

I think of myself as this ideal version of who I can be and what I can do when it's not true.

I like to think that this person would be able to match the best version of myself, but if she was who I thought she was in my mind, she would leave me.

I mean, if I was in her shoes, I would leave me.

What does that say about me?

What does it say about you?

The way that you think about yourself and how you put it on other people and almost make it an expectation that they need to hustle to the standard of being your girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever.

when in reality both of you are just doing the best you can and if you're not a match you're not a match we over complicate this so many times we try to save relationships that were doomed from the start we start we try to make excuses create these kind of like safeguards for like no no she is doing good it's just that she doesn't excite me i can't support her in the way that she needs support but we're doing just fine

Romantization has made, I think, dating very difficult and it's made living a fulfilling life very difficult because the standards that are created are so unrealistic.