Zerky

It's up to me if I want to do it.

I have to now figure out what that looks like.

But I am no longer a victim of all of, oh my goodness, I've made all these bad decisions, I can't reverse them.

Because what got you into that hole was you.

What got you into a position where you had, I don't know, a bad string of boyfriends, a bad string of girlfriends, just like a terrible partner one after another.

We can sit there and say, yeah, that's the dating market.

Or we can kind of look at it and be like, dang it, we keep finding these people.

Why?

Why is it that I am just somehow in the thick of everything?

in the fog that is this dating world, picking out the worst people.

Accountability becomes your friend.

It doesn't become this enemy that I think a lot of us have learned to grow up with because taking accountability oftentimes meant facing punishment.

I'm sure you had that right when you were a kid.

If you mess something up or let's say you were playing with a soccer ball inside, your mom told you you're not allowed to and you break one of her Tiffany stained glass lamps.

You were in for a treat.

You were in for no Xbox, no nothing for weeks or whatever.

So it was easier to lie.

It was easier to be like, no, that's not me, and say that that wasn't you so that you could avoid the consequences of your actions.

And although that would work in that kind of scenario, and then all of a sudden, oh, it was the dog that somehow got up on the weird island that's in the kitchen and knocked it down.

I don't know how he did that.