Zerky

You have to say no.

And especially it's pertinent that you say no to people that you know it will piss off if you say no to.

I've started living by this rule in my own life and it's transformed everything about it.

It's made people respect me more.

It's made my family understand, okay, you know, he's got his own life.

And

Over everything, I've just become a happier person because I don't have these expectations I need to fill of other people all the time.

But also, I won't lie, in relationships it's been harder.

Because if you do really love somebody, or you care for them deeply, it's hard to just be like, yo, stiff arm, right?

You kind of have to do it with more grace.

And nobody really teaches you how to do that.

That's why I'm going to try to do that right now.

Look, honesty is always worth the price that you pay up front, which is discomfort, which is this weird kind of, should I have done that?

Should I have not?

It's always worth it.

But I think your delivery is what matters.

I think if you do it in a very snappy, selfish way, like stop, talk, right?

Like just the anger.

Yeah, it's going to come off weird.

And you might have to clarify yourself a couple times where I think the strength really lies is in your ability to be like, hey, I need my time.