Zurkie

When should you give up on somebody, on something, on a dream, on yourself?

When is it okay to finally call quits and tell yourself it wasn't worth it and never was?

Well, I think if you're looking at things that way, what's the point of doing anything?

Because a lot of us, we like to relish in the mistakes that we've made in the past instead of recognizing that if we had not made them, we would have never learned.

But with people, it's different because there's a lot more time that gets sunk into relationships that don't really do anything for us.

We like to say that, oh, we're just dating around or whatever.

It's just, it is what it is.

But it isn't.

Because it's your time.

And your time in this life is very valuable.

And oftentimes you'll kind of feel a little bit weird if things don't work out the way that you thought they would.

I think part of it is that you hold on way too much on how things are supposed to look, especially with other people, and you focus on things you can't control and try to manipulate the way that something will go.

I know for me, for a fact, I was obsessed with control in relationships.

I just wanted to know that what I was doing was good, was right.

and what I would ignore was the day-to-day signs that we were never going to be compatible we would never work and I would just continue to lie to myself and tell myself no no no this isn't a sinking ship no no no the fact that there are a couple red flags that are going on and you know all the sirens in the cockpit are going pull up break up break up you know I just kept flying the plane until it crashed and I was looking at the wreckage being like I could have low-key prevented that

When do you give up on somebody?

I think you already have.

If you're thinking about it, you're kind of at your last, your last point.

You've tried, you did everything you could.

You tried to show them how beautiful they were, how great they were.