Zurkie

You tried to be honest and understanding, and you also tried to save them.

And that was your mistake.

But how do you deal with something if you went into a relationship thinking that somebody else was whole and was perfect and was good?

I think that you also made a mistake of assuming that.

A lot of us rush into things.

We think right away that we have similar interests.

We like someone.

We're attracted to them.

It's a catch.

We're locking it in.

Instead of taking our time and kind of allowing the course of a relationship to develop.

We just jump to conclusions This is our soulmate.

This is our partner This is the person that we're supposed to spend the rest of our life with and you begin in your mind to build this building of Memories that you want to have together Different standards they need to hit because you are viewing them not as a human being but as this romanticized partner in your mind It's foolish

But all of us will do it.

Just because it's foolish doesn't mean that we're not going to make the mistake of thinking somebody is better than they are.

And it's okay.

Don't hold it against yourself.

But I think that giving up on somebody is already framed in a way that you had some kind of key to them.

You had some kind of answer to all of their problems and their self-pity and lack of self-worth.

You didn't.