5 Signs You're A High-Masking Autistic With ADHD (AuDHD Expert Explains)
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What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
The diagnosis of ADHD doesn't lead to things joining together.
What is AuDHD and how does it differ from traditional diagnoses?
I've seen people separating, divorcing. Now it's all in the open. Both the partners aren't able to live with that reality.
What fears do people with AuDHD experience regarding judgment?
If there was a child and you could only tell them one thing about ADHD, what would that be?
That ADHD is not a mixture. It's a completely different neurobiology, which comes with a different presentation. It comes with a push and a pull that you do not experience in either autism or ADHD. It can be a balancing act if you get it right, but if you get it wrong, it can be devastating for you.
I wasn't lonely because nobody loved me. I was lonely because so few people truly knew me. Why do you think so many people with ADHD feel lonely?
It's multiple factors, I think.
Can I have just a second of your time? If this podcast has helped you understand your brain or made you feel less alone, can you do me one favor? Can you hit the follow button?
How does loneliness manifest differently for those with AuDHD?
And I'll repay the favor by continuing to book the best and most exclusive conversations on this topic. Please enjoy the episode and always remember you're not broken, just different, and you have always been enough. Dr. Karam Sadiq. Last time we did a fascinating episode on all DHD, which is the dual diagnosis of autism and ADHD. And there was one comment on the YouTube video that really stood out. What are some examples of ADHD and autism pulling a person in opposite directions?
The need for autonomy.
What are the hidden signs that someone is masking their AuDHD?
social interaction but then not able to manage that interaction i think that is that is the key because what happens is that people love to socially interact they have the energy adhd provides them with the energy they like the idea of socializing they like the idea of being with people And just before the interaction happens, they start to have cold feet.
How can an AuDHD diagnosis affect personal relationships?
A lot of times, they just cancel the point. They do not go. They kind of make an excuse. But sometimes when they go, they feel kind of as if they're being judged. They're in the middle of something that they do not understand. People do not understand them. The structure is not created for them. And even if they find some like-minded people, because small talk is, for an autistic person, is the worst case scenario. Like, they don't know how to navigate small talk.
What are the emotional costs of masking AuDHD traits?
The bridging is very difficult. And I've met some people who have created scripts for themselves, and they ask everybody the same script. And when somebody was narrating it to me, and I remember my father saying, Whenever he would meet somebody after the name, the first thing he would ask was, where are you from? He had so much knowledge around the geography of the areas and the dialects of languages and everything.
How can understanding AuDHD change one's identity and self-perception?
He could start a conversation from there. And some people, they script it so that they come to a common ground. They can start communicating. But a lot of the times... they cannot sustain the small talk for more than a few minutes. And then the social interaction has a time limit to it. It is as much energy that you have, especially when the ADHD is generating that. Once the social battery is gone, All of a sudden, you shut down. You don't want to be there. All of a sudden, people see a different side to you from being very bubbly and conversational to very aloof, very recluse and wanting to leave the place as soon as possible. And then you take days to recover from that social interaction. I think this is one of the most debilitating things that I've seen in our DHT.
You mentioned that someone with ADHD is concerned about being judged when they go into a social encounter. What do you think they're worried about being judged for?
As I explain to the people that I see, that it feels like it is not a science, it's not an evidence base, but I'm pretty sure at some stage, five years, ten years from now, we'll be able to see that there's a DNA connected, there's a genetic link to having a lack of social template in autistic individuals. So that lack of social template means that they don't have a map to navigate the social inputs. Somehow other people, non-autistic people, you put them in a situation, they just fly through, they breeze through it.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
0:00–0:03
2
What is AuDHD and how does it differ from traditional diagnoses?
0:03–0:11
3
What fears do people with AuDHD experience regarding judgment?
0:11–0:51
4
How does loneliness manifest differently for those with AuDHD?
0:51–1:45
5
What are the hidden signs that someone is masking their AuDHD?
1:45–2:14
6
How can an AuDHD diagnosis affect personal relationships?
2:14–2:47
7
What are the emotional costs of masking AuDHD traits?
2:47–3:15
8
How can understanding AuDHD change one's identity and self-perception?
3:15–47:48
Speakers
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