Dr Ned Hallowell is a Harvard educated psychiatrist, author, and the world's No.1 authority on ADHD. Today, in this special bonus virtual episode, he shares how you can level up your ADHD! Chapters: 00:19 Common ADHD tough patches 01:28 Common ADHD blind spots 03:50 What can feeling lost, or different, do to the human brain and its development? 10:22 Why is it important to fit "into the pack" and what effect does it have on a person's self-esteem 13:02 In a person's upbringing, how important is it to have the understanding and support of their parents 16:15 Evolutionary, what effect does our parent's opinion have on us that is specific to that parental relationship? 22:41 Do we seek our parent's approval even if we believe them to be wrong? 28:40 What are some common comments ADHDers might receive from Neurotypicals 32:18 With childhood trauma, I've heard that you stay at the age you are when this trauma is inflicted, is this true and why does it keep you stuck in this time? 34:22 How can having people constantly doubting you or seeing your eccentricities as faults impact your self-esteem and then inflict on that person's capacity for shame? 37:47 What is shame and does shame have a purpose? 52:25 How to conquer the ‘boom and bust’ cycle 01:01:03 Is it a curse to suffer from RSD, or can it be a blessing to feel emotions so deeply? 01:03:55 Other than just "fitting in", does masking serve other purposes? 01:05:32 Do you think people mask because it’s is a good way to not have the "true them" rejected? 01:06:04 What would you say to the female community who have had a diagnosis later in their life 01:09:16 What would you say to the ADHD community who have been told that they are "too much" in past relationships 01:12:10 Can being misunderstood manifest itself in anger or even hatred? 01:15:01 Have you experienced people with ADHD in your practice that are so overwhelmed that they just can't function 01:19:42 Do you have a mental list of eccentric behaviours that, if there are some undiagnosed people watching, might help them put 2 and 2 together and seek a diagnosis 01:24:11 ADHD positives 01:30:30 Reframing ADHD to VAST 01:33:45 For those listening at home now who are thinking "I really wish I didn't have this ADHD thing" in two minutes, explain to them why they should want it. Dr. Hallowell's website: https://drhallowell.com/ Buy Ned's books 👉 https://drhallowell.com/read/books-by-ned/ Buy Alex's book 👉 https://linktr.ee/adhdchatter?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=cb124ab3-861b-48e7-85c0-0d8ada9c777e Producer: Timon Woodward Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Ned Halliwell, thank you so much for coming back onto the ADHD Chatter podcast.
It's a pleasure.
I want to, your first episode did incredibly well, and I really wanted to follow on from there. And I suppose a foundational question to sort of set the tone for the whole episode. What do you think are some common tough patches that you notice in people that you've treated with ADHD?
Well, until it gets diagnosed and treated, or as I like to put it, the gift gets unwrapped. The main problem is just a tremendous sense of underachievement. You know, I haven't done what I know I could do, and I don't know why I haven't done it. And then what I call the moral diagnosis starts piling in. I'm lazy, I'm bad, I'm undisciplined.
I haven't taken advantage of the advantages I've been given. I mean, just this slew of morally tinged versions of I'm a bad person. I mean, and so that's when they come to see me as adults and they have not been diagnosed. That's the person I meet. The extraordinarily talented person who is hanged down on themselves and just doesn't know what to do.
And somebody said, well, maybe it's ADD, so they come to see me.
Do you see a common theme in there? I'm going to use the word blind spots, like a common theme in their blind spots, or to put it another way, are there shared behaviors within the ADHD community that confuse that same community until they hear others are doing the same, and then suddenly it makes a lot of sense to them?
Oh, absolutely. I mean, until they get the unifying concept of ADHD, which, by the way, is a terrible term, that brings it all together, then it's all the sort of helter-skelter patches of problems. You know, the disorganization or laziness, so-called laziness, or... wrong job, bad marriage, you know, impulsive, just this collection, this smorgasbord of life problems.
And until you see the unifying concept that brings them all together, it's like whack-a-mole. You take care of one and something else pops up. And that creates a problem of its own. You're running around all the time trying to fix things up, And you can't do it because they keep falling apart.
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