AEE 2689: Don’t Want to Sound Harsh? Soften the Blow with These Phrases
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Why do English learners worry about sounding harsh and how can they avoid it?
This is an All Ears English podcast, episode 2689. Don't want to sound harsh? Soften the blow with these phrases.
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Do you worry about sounding too harsh when you say something in English? Today, find out phrases you can use to make what you say less blunt. Listen in to find out how to be softer so you don't break the connection.
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One more time, go to allearsenglish.com slash f-l-u-e-n-c-y-s-c-o-r-e. Hey, Michelle, how are you today? Hi, I'm
good. How are you? Excellent. I have a question for you. I know you're not a person who is normally harsh or blunt, but have you ever said something and immediately thought, oh, that sounded way too harsh?
Oh, yeah, of course. It definitely happens. Sometimes I'll, you know, if I'm, I don't know, I'm trying to think of a specific situation, but there are definitely times where you say something and you're like, oh, God, I wish, like, I hope that they didn't take that the wrong way or...
You know when this happens to me the most is in Spanish or French because in English, you know, in your first language, you know a little better how to soften things and all of the words to cushion everything with. But when you're learning a language, so for example, we were in Mexico and there was a World Cup game and I wanted to ask, there were a little taqueria. We wanted to ask them to turn the TV on. And I'm trying to think, I'm like, how would I say like, can you please
let me know if the TV's working?
All I knew how to say was, turn the TV on, please. That probably sounds blunt. I'm trying to say it nicely. I'm like, I need to look up the nicer words to couch that in, right? Yeah.
We're always, I think in English, we soften things Quite
a
bit. Yeah. So we're going to be talking about that today. We are answering a question from a listener today. A really good one. The question is, is there a phrase I can say before something that might be taken as harsh or blunt to soften the blow? And that comes to us from Pei Yao. So thank you so much for that question. Yeah. I mean, we definitely do have phrases for this. So this is about saying something in before right so it's not like i mean we could also talk about what to say after at another point right like oh if you think that you said something that sounded harsh
um but
this is about what to say before to soften the blow what does it mean to soften the blow
yeah so that anything that makes it not feel so direct or blunt or harsh Just like soften the blow, if you were to literally soften a blow, that would mean if you're like punching something and you don't hit quite as hard, you would be softening the blow. We also use this idiomatically, metaphorically with language, something that might come across as really harsh or strong. We'll soften it by using a lot of language, phrases that we use to soften.
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Chapters
6 chapters
1
Why do English learners worry about sounding harsh and how can they avoid it?
0:00–5:49
2
What is the listener’s question about a pre‑phrase to soften blunt remarks?
5:49–9:30
3
How does the phrase “no offense” work and when should you use it?
9:30–13:30
4
What are alternative softening phrases that sound less confrontational?
13:30–16:56
5
How can you use “please don’t take this the wrong way” in everyday feedback?
16:56–20:03
6
What role‑play examples show the right way to apply these softening phrases?
20:03–21:12
Speakers
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