All of You
Episodes
Ep.85 Relationships: the playground for personal growth
08 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this conversation, we explore one of the most surprising truths about personal development: the work you do for your relationship is the same work ...
Ep.84 Does your trauma make you stronger?
01 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we unpack the complicated relationship between trauma and growth—and why going through something hard isn’t what makes you strong...
Ep.83 We weaponized the work
24 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re getting honest about a pattern we didn’t expect to find in our own relationship: using personal growth tools in ways they w...
Ep.82 Your permission to not be liked
17 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re diving into the uncomfortable truth that not everyone is going to like you — and why that’s actually okay. We talk through our o...
Ep.81 Outsourcing your self worth
10 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel totally fine… until your partner seems a little off? And suddenly you’re questioning yourself, replaying conversations, or wondering if ...
Ep.80 How health in one area is connected to all areas
03 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever notice how when one part of your life feels off, everything else starts to feel a little off too? In this episode, we explore how all areas of yo...
Ep.79 What we really want in an apology
27 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We think we want “I’m sorry,” but what we’re really craving is to be seen in our pain. In this episode, we share a story from one of our own p...
Ep.78 Projection: it’s easier to see this in you than to face it in me
20 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever accused someone of something, only to realize later that it was actually about you? In this episode, we’re diving deep into projection...
Ep.77 Manipulation: the ways we do it without knowing it
13 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We all like to believe we’re “not manipulative.” But the truth? Most of us do it, often without even knowing. In this episode, Shiv opens up abo...
Ep.76 Signs of an absent partner
06 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You can be sitting next to someone you love and still feel completely alone. In this episode, we talk about what it really means to have an absent par...
Ep.75 Are we chasing or avoiding what we feel
29 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we explore how so much of what we do comes down to either chasing or avoiding our emotions. We chase because we believe others have s...
Ep.74 Is it time to rest or work harder?
22 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve all hit that moment of wondering: do I need to slow down, or do I just need to push a little harder? In this episode, we unpack how to tell th...
Ep.73 The fine line between boundaries and control
15 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Where’s the line between a healthy boundary and trying to control someone you love? In this episode, we dive into the difference. Boundaries create ...
Ep.72 Building self confidence
08 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the confidence you’ve been chasing isn’t about looking put together or pretending you’ve got it all figured out, but about healing the p...
Ep.71 Navigating jealousy
01 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Jealousy is one of those emotions everyone feels but no one really likes to talk about. Is it a natural part of love, or does it always point to deepe...
Ep.70 Hot takes: our spicy opinions and random rants
25 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week's episode is a little different…Instead of diving deep into one theme, Shiv and Dave are serving up their hot takes—the rants, opinions,...
Ep.69 Self sabotage: how we get in our own way
18 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we sometimes get in our own way, even when things are going really well? In this episode, we unpack the sneaky ways self-sabotage shows up in o...
Ep.68 When you don’t feel that chemistry anymore
11 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Attraction isn’t static — it ebbs and flows depending on our energy, our connection, and what’s happening inside of us. In this episode, we talk...
Ep.67 Fighting about money part 2
04 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this follow-up episode, Dave opens up more about the beliefs he formed around money growing up, and together we unpack how those early messages sha...
Ep.66 Fighting about money part 1
28 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this first episode of our two-part series on money, Shiv shares how her old money beliefs were shaped by fear, scarcity, and survival—and how shi...
Ep.65 Defensiveness: staying curious and confident in conflict
21 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In one of our most listened-to episodes, we tackled defensiveness—and you asked for more. In this deeper dive, we explore how to stay open and groun...
Ep.64 Our story: how it started and almost ended
14 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re sharing the real, raw story of how we met—and how it nearly all fell apart. From big reactions to small things, to feeling ...
Ep. 63 Why people pleasing is so effed up
07 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever said yes when you wanted to scream no? Same. In this episode, we dive into the messy world of people pleasing — where it comes from, how it sho...
Ep.62 How we stopped a fight by understanding our feelings
30 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most underrated relationship skills: feeling your feelings before they explode into a fight. Shiv sh...
Ep.61 Single after 30: The good, bad and really ugly
23 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why hasn’t love happened for me yet?”—this episode is for you. Dave flips the script and interview...
Ep.60 Rebuilding after divorce
16 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this deeply personal episode, Dave opens up about something 50% of people face but rarely feel safe enough to unpack out loud: rebuilding your life...
Ep.59 The art of repair
09 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Relationships aren’t defined by how well we avoid conflict—but by how we come back together after it. In this episode, we dive into the art of rep...
Ep.58 How to express your needs without criticizing your partner
02 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this honest and vulnerable episode, we’re getting real about something that affects every relationship: expressing your needs without slipping in...
Ep.57 Grieving what you never had
26 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we talk about a tender kind of grief that often goes unspoken — the grief of a life that didn’t happen. The future you imagined, ...
Ep.56 Overcoming the pit of despair with author Tanner Orel
19 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this deeply honest and inspiring episode, we sit down with Tanner Orel—viral content creator and author of the thrilling dragon fantasy series Ti...
Ep.55 Is it love...or emotional abuse?
12 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Love isn’t always what it seems. In this episode, we dive into the dark side of love — where emotional abuse, retaliation, and control can be mist...
Ep.54 Real love vs. romance
05 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What’s the difference between real love and just being caught up in the romance? In this episode, we dive into the distinction between deep, lasting...
Ep. 53 The blame game
28 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, we’re diving into something that we all do at times — the blame game. We’re breaking down why we’re so quick to blame ot...
Ep.52 The most important conversation you will ever have
21 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The way you speak to yourself shapes everything—your confidence, your relationships, your choices, your entire life. In this heartfelt episode, Shiv...
Ep.51 Emotional Intelligence
14 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shiv and Dave get real about their journeys with emotional intelligence—aka tuning into the feelings in our bodies (not just thinki...
Ep.50 Our 50th Episode
07 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It’s been a whole year of showing up, learning, growing, and hitting record. In this special anniversary episode, Shiv and Dave share a life update ...
Ep.49 What is emotional connection?
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Emotional connection is at the heart of every meaningful relationship. In this episode, Shiv and Dave explore what it truly means, when we feel most c...
Ep. 48 Navigating Stress
24 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Stress is inevitable, but how we handle it makes all the difference. In this episode, we open up about some of the most stressful moments in our lives...
Ep.47Â Denial part 2
17 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As it turns out, Shiv and Dave weren’t quite done discussing denial after last week’s episode. While last week dove into how to help someone who i...
Ep.46 Who’s in denial?
10 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How often have you thought, 'Wow, that person is in denial?' Probably more times than you've thought, 'I’m in denial.' It’s always easier to see i...
Ep.45 Trust Issues & the Lively vs. Baldoni Saga
03 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Did Shiv convince Dave to dive into the Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni saga this week? Yes, she did! What started as a lighthearted take on celebrity...
Ep.44 Interview: Naushad Godrej
25 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week we are joined by our good friend Naush. He’s a men’s coach, breathwork facilitator, and lover of all things movement and wellness. Tune ...
Ep.43 It starts with you
17 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Shiv and Dave are getting back to the basics of healing—the real, deep kind. They’re breaking down why true change starts with you, how...
Ep. 42 It's safe to be weird
10 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’re all a little weird in our own way, but how comfortable we are showing our weirdness to the world varies. In this episode Shiv and Dave share t...
Ep.41 Interview: BC Serna
03 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week we're joined by BC Serna. He’s been a mentor, friend, fellow coach, and one of the most authentic voices in the healing space on social me...
Ep.40 Authenticity - removing the mask
27 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What was intended as an episode on the importance of authenticity turned into Shiv and Dave being really authentic about where they are at and how the...
Ep.39 The mental load
20 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to responsibilities managing a household we want it to be 50/50 all the time, but the reality is it's challenging to measure and the con...
Ep.38 Compassion’s role in healing
13 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The journey of self growth and healing is filled with daunting obstacles, challenges, some highs and a lot of lows. It takes courage and strength to b...
Ep.37 The wall of resentment
06 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Resentment, it’s the ultimate connection killer. In this week’s episode Shiv and Dave share times they have harbored resentment in their relations...
Ep. 36 Are we Christians?
30 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Tune in for another episode that Shiv swore she would never do, talk about faith and religion. While Shiv and Dave were both raised in the Christian c...
Ep.35 Handling red flags in relationships
23 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Get a little philosophical with us this week as we discuss what we believe red flags are. Whether you are newly dating or have been with your partner ...
Ep. 34 Sex life
16 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Yep, we went there. In this week’s episode we dive into a topic that’s often taboo to talk about, but is so central to connection: sex and intimac...
Ep. 33 The ego’s role in change
09 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Changing can feel like a death of your ego and is often so uncomfortable that it feels like it’s wrong. In this episode Shiv details the ways she ha...
Ep. 32 Battling Depression
03 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Shiv and Dave open up about their personal experiences battling depression and share their perspective on what they believe depression is. ...
Ep. 31 Working through fears of blending our family and getting married (again)
25 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Getting married a second time can bring up a flood of emotions, fears, and doubts. In this episode, Dave opens up about the personal blocks and anxiet...
Ep. 30 The impact of a father or lack thereof
18 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It goes without question that our parents and caregivers make a lasting impact in shaping who we become. This episode explores the impact of fathers w...
Ep. 29 Red, white, and triggered: Reflections and tools in response to the election
11 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Politics is a highly triggering topic—one that can divide families and prevent friends from showing up as their authentic selves with one another. I...
Ep.28 Our Wedding Energy: What Worked, What Didn't, and Why It Matters.
04 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We’re officially married and ready to let you in on all the learnings and lessons from this wild season! In this episode, we discuss the most import...
Ep.27 Talking all things anxiety
17 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Anxiety is an emotion we all feel from time to time. Some of us experience it more often than others, but I think it’s safe to say none of us enjoy ...
Ep.26 Navigating defensiveness in relationships
04 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Arguing with someone who is defensive is exhausting and oftentimes pointless. Being someone who is defensive is harmful to yourself and everyone close...
Ep. 25 Sitting in the discomfort of new shoes
29 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re anything like me (Shiv here), sometimes you crave your comfort zone like a kid craving their baby blanket. Growth can be incredibly uncomf...
Ep.24 Second hand trauma
22 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When Shiv lost her brother it was traumatic in a very obvious way. However, the lack of compassion and understanding by her teachers after her loss wa...
Ep. 23 How do we define success?
14 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone has a different definition of success, in this episode Shiv and Dave define what it means to them and the lengths they will go to achieve the...
Ep. 22 Healing insecurities
08 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We all have insecurities because we have all been wounded. In this week’s episode Shiv and Dave talk about how to heal from insecurities and how to ...
Ep.21 Abundance & scarcity mindset
01 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week's episode shines a light on how shifting your mindset to one of abundance versus scarcity will actually bring you more. Shiv and Dave share ...
Ep.20 Forgiveness & resentment
24 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When we don’t forgive, resentment builds. In this week’s episode Dave takes us on a deeply insightful and personal journey into how and why he has...
Ep.19 Releasing other people’s opinions of you
17 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Shiv found herself level 10 triggered after reading an instagram comment and this episode is peeling back the curtain on how she used her trigger as a...
Ep.18 (Un)Fulfilled and All of You Collab
10 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Shiv and Dave are joined by Camille Cook, host of the (Un)Fulfilled Podcast for an important conversation on how to find fulfillment....
Ep.17 Imperfectly working through perfectionism
03 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We all struggle with trying to be perfect at times, but for some of us it can feel much more debilitating. Especially for Shiv, who opens up about the...
Ep.16 Regulating our nervous systems
26 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week Shiv and Dave dive into how learning to regulate their nervous system has helped them make better decisions, feel better in their lives, and...
Ep.15 Living in Alignment
21 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Things get personal in this episode, Dave and Shiv share updates on recent life decisions and how they make decisions in alignment with their values. ...
Ep.14 True love has low expectations
13 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Warning: If you have high expectations for others this episode could be triggering, but with an open heart and mind it could also be just what you nee...
Ep.13 Our thoughts create our reality
06 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I talk to myself and no I’m not crazy, you do it too. We all talk to ourselves and in this episode we dive into the impact our self talk has on our ...
Ep.12 Shame
31 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If I could heal the world of just one thing, it would be shame. Most roads of pain lead back to shame and we go down many of those roads in this episo...
Ep.11 The journey home
22 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Inspired by a trip to Shiv’s parents house, this episode takes you through the twists and turns of how to come back to the person you are deep withi...
Ep.10 We got codependent
15 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We live and breathe all things mental health and healing so when it comes to finding and fixing our patterns, we are always on the hunt. With that sai...
Ep.9 Set those boundaries
08 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In honor of Mental Health Awareness month Shiv and Dave share some of the ways they maintain their mental health. This episode starts with small trick...
Ep.8 How triggers kill connection
01 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Triggered…you’ve likely heard this term tossed around before. I know I had, but I didn’t always know what it truly meant. Early in our relations...
Ep.7 How our core beliefs hold us back
23 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Through life experiences we all develop our own set of core beliefs. Our core beliefs then become the rules that we choose to live by. While subconsci...
Ep.6 Meditating through uncertainty
16 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We’re getting real, real quick in this episode. With life throwing us a big curve ball with Dave’s career there is a lot of uncertainty on the hor...
Ep.5 Had to heal
11 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Some of us are unaware that we carry emotional pain inside us that impacts or day to day lives, not to name names (Shiv) and then there are those like...
Ep.4 What is inner work?
02 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
“Do the work” is a common phrase we’ve all heard a thousand times. In this episode we have an open discussion on what we believe it means to do ...
Ep.3 Can we change?
26 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Wanna grow? Then it’s time to embrace that really scary thing called change. Shiv, a natural born hater of change, reflects on her own experiences g...
Ep.2 Our feelings on feelings
18 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Get ready because we’re about to spill the beans on how feeling your feelings can lead you to more connected relationships, greater self awareness, ...
Ep.1 Intro to All of You
11 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When you hear the words “all of you,” what comes to mind? Join us as we dive deep into what this means for us personally and how our fragile egos ...