Are dating apps actually helping you find love—or could they be keeping you stuck in an endless cycle of swiping, matching, and searching for someone better? In this episode of AMPLIFY, Lauren breaks down the psychology behind modern dating apps, how they’ve fundamentally changed the way we meet and evaluate potential partners, and why having more options doesn’t necessarily lead to better relationships. From the dopamine loop of swiping and the paradox of choice to algorithms that learn your dating patterns, we’re unpacking why apps can start to feel more like entertainment and window shopping than a path toward genuine connection. Lauren also shares why your “internal algorithm”—your subconscious patterns, attachment tendencies, standards, boundaries, and emotional health—matters far more than any dating app algorithm ever will. And while Lauren shares why she personally wouldn’t rely on dating apps, this isn’t an episode telling you that you have to delete them. You’ll learn how to use dating apps intentionally and strategically, move connections into the real world, avoid getting attached to an online fantasy, and make sure the apps remain a tool for finding love rather than becoming your entire dating life. Because the goal isn’t to get really good at online dating. The goal is to build a beautiful relationship that makes you delete the apps forever. New episodes every Tuesday. Listen to all episodes on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube: AMPLIFY with Lauren Connect with Lauren on social media (Instagram, TikTok, Facebook): @laurensalaun

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