Anatomy of Change

Have You Been Triangulated?

16 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk about the power of Triangulation. We explain what it is, why it matters, and what to do about it! Get 15% off the Back to Basics Bootca...

What My Family Tree Says About Me

09 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we continue FOOvember with an episode all about Genograms and the Family Tree! Make sure to watch this one on Youtube because Seth actually show...

Relationships First! with Emily Frisella

05 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk with the AMAZING Emily Frisella! Remember to share the episode on your Instagram and tag Emily and us for your chance to win a copy of ...

Bringing Back the FOO!

02 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We're bringing back for the second year in a row - FOOvember! FOO stands for Family or Origin, which is the family one grew up in, as opposed to the p...

Loving Your Husband by Sharing Your Body

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today Melanie talks about the love and power that women can offer their husbands by sharing their bodies. . . yeah, she went there! LINKS: https://an...

My Husband has a Drinking Problem and it Makes me Disgusted!

26 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener's question about what to do when your spouse's drinking problem is causing you to dislike them! LINKS: https://anatomyofus...

How to Be an AMAZING Dad with Bryan Ward

19 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we call up Bryan Ward of the Dad Up Podcast and talk about what it takes to show up fully for your kiddos! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ htt...

Leadership in the Studley Home

12 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we discuss some recent revelations and changes we've implemented into how our own household functions and shifts in leadership roles! LINKS: ...

How NOT to be a Zombie Dad with Larry Hagner

05 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk with Larry Hagner, founder, and host of Dad Edge, about how to be an amazing dad! LINKS: https://thedadedge.com/ https://anatomyofu...

What No Sex in a Marriage Means

30 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk about the many MANY things that can lead to a sexless marriage. We also explore ways to get unstuck and heal from the pattern. LINKS:...

Healing a Traumatic Brain Injury with Errol Doebler

28 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk with the AMAZING Errol Doebler about healing from his traumatic brain injury as well as how cold exposure and meditation literally saved...

Women's Group Coaching!

21 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today Seth and I talk about the very first Women's Group Coaching retreat and why you NEED to join! LINKS: Get the new Back to Basics Bootcamp Cou...

The Masculine in Relationship with GS Youngblood

14 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk with author GS Youngblood about his book The Masculine in Relationship. LINKS: Get the new Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://a...

Re-learning What I Already Knew!

07 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today I (Seth) go solo revisiting an episode I have had to re-learn recently about adult attachment disorder and more! LINKS: Listen to the o.g. a...

Connected to Goodness with David Meltzer

31 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk with the AMAZING David Meltzer about his personal journey into deeper self-knowing, and he shares about his awesome book Connected to Go...

How Can I Forgive My Husband for Past Hookups and Porn Addiction?

26 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener's question about how to heal from the wounds of past hookups and porn addiction. LINKS: Get more Anatomy of Sex: https:/...

My Husband Had TWO Cyber Affairs. How do we Move Forward?

24 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener's question about what to do when a spouse has been unfaithful online. LINKS: Get the new Back to Basics Bootcamp Course...

I Want a Partnership NOT a Dictatorship!

17 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener's question about what to do when your partner doesn't want to work together. LINKS: Get the new Back to Basics Bootcamp...

I Need to Make Her Orgasm Every Time!

12 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we discuss an issue that came up at the Men's Badass Husband Mastermind retreat - men wanting their wives to orgasm every time. LINKS: Get t...

Help! I'm Afraid of my Wife!

10 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk about what to do if you are afraid of your wife! And wives. . . we tell you how NOT to be scary anymore! LINKS: Get the new Back to ...

Weaponizing Family of Origin

03 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we share how we were both unintentionally weaponizing elements of our Family of Origin. LINKS: Get the new Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: h...

What the Hell are we Fighting About?!

27 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, we experience an Anatomy of Us first: Seth stopped our podcast mid-recording because he was upset, but as you guessed, we turned i...

Admired, Trusted, Accepted, Respected: What Men Desire From Women

06 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we dive deeper into what men desire from women and how women can step up their game to get more of what they want from their men! LINKS: Get...

Dirty Talk with Dan Purcell

29 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are sharing a conversation between Melanie and Dan Purcell all about Sexy Stories aka dirty talk! LINKS: Get the new Back to Basics Bootc...

Manifesting in Marriage

22 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we discuss the idea of manifesting in your marriage! What does it look like, how do you do it, why do we make Vision Boards, and so much more! ...

We Have a New Course!

17 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We have launched a new course called the Back to Basics Bootcamp available now!    This is a crash course on resolving the most common issues marri...

What We Get Wrong About the Needs of Men

15 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we take a deep and emotional dive into how women get it wrong when it comes to the needs of men. We also explore how we can change this as women...

How Your Friends Impact Your Marriage

08 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk about the impact that friends have on your relationships. LINKS: Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply Now: https://anatomyofu...

What Men are Longing For

03 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we take a deep dive into what men are longing for in relationships. WARNING: Explicit language and subject matter. Do not listen with young k...

How to Talk to Your Wife (Part 2)

01 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we continue the conversation about how to talk to your wife. We share things that get in the way and what to do about them. LINKS: Intereste...

How to Talk to Your Wife (Part 1)

25 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener's question about how to talk to your wife. We share things that get in the way and what to do about them. LINKS: Intere...

Men and Leadership

18 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we dive into what it means to be a leader as a man and a husband, as well as what you can do to be a better leader to yourself your wife, and yo...

Men, Marriage, and Mating, Oh My!

11 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This month, we're flipping the script and asking the men what are their hold-ups when it comes to sex and intimacy! On today's episode, we answer a fe...

Men And Purpose

04 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Seth goes solo today talking about Men's PURPOSE and explains how if we have no overall purpose in our lives and marriages then we will ALWAYS be in t...

Foreplay Saves Your Vag!

29 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we help a listener understand the vag-saving beauty of foreplay! We also talk about the fact that foreplay is NOT about touching and kissing. Yo...

What's Wrong with Me? I Cheated on my Husband Twice!

27 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener's question about her pattern of infidelity, and y'all. . . we get SERIOUS! LINKS: Interested in Women's Group Coaching?...

My Husband Cheated, but I want to Make it Work!

20 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener's question about her husband has cheated, but she wants to make it work. LINKS: Interested in Women's Group Coaching? A...

How do I get my Cheating Husband to be Honest?

13 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener's question about how to get your husband to be honest after he has cheated, and y'all, we have a LOT TO SAY!  LINKS: I...

I Think My Fiancé is Cheating!

06 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We kick off "April is For Fools" month with a listener question asking what she should do if her fiance is acting sus and has a history of emotional a...

Why Women Become Uncomfortable with Intimacy

01 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

WARNING: Explicit language and subject matter. Do not listen with young kids! Today we cover a crowd-sourced question. We asked YOU all, what makes...

My Husband Doesn't Know How to be a Husband

30 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener question about a husband that expressed that he doesn't know what it means to be a husband and his jobs, duties, and roles....

Kill Your Mood Killers!

25 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk about mood killers, those pesky thoughts that take away that 'old-fashioned feeling.' But we do more than just talk, we also give you a ...

My Husband Doesn't Listen to Me!

23 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener question about a husband that openly admits that he DOESN'T LISTEN! LINKS: Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply ...

Own Your Past Change Your Future with John Delony!

16 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we called up our friend Dr. John Delony and talked about his brand new book Own Your Past Change Your Future. LINKS: johndelony.com Interes...

Encanto Pt. 2: Melanie Was Wrong!

09 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we continue exploring the concepts portrayed in Encanto after our producer, Reva, called out Melanie for being wrong about her self-analysis! ...

Encanto Through the Lens of a Family Therapy

02 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we explore the concepts and ideas found in the new hit movie Encanto through the eyes of a Family Therapist! LINKS: Interested in Women's Gr...

Oral Sex: What we get wrong, what we get right, and why it Matters!

25 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

WARNING: Explicit language and subject matter. Do not listen with young kids! Today we talk about the power of Oral Sex within a marriage relations...

Finding Your Inner Goddess

23 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we explore what it means for women to find their inner goddess, and how that inner work can transform their entire community! LINKS: Interes...

The Crisis of Devaluing a Woman's Work

16 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we dig into the enormous negative impact it has on families and society when we devalue the work of women. LINKS: Interested in Women's Grou...

Seth Wants You to Join Women's Group Coaching

10 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Seth sends a special message calling all women to join Melanie's new Women's Group Coaching community! LINKS: Interested in Women's Group Coaching...

Women's Intuition

09 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we explore the often untalked-about intuition women have and how ignoring it might be destroying our marriages and families! LINKS: Interest...

Explant Surgery, Another Boob Job. . . What do we Do?!

05 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Bonus Episode! We've mentioned this story before but decided to do a whole episode on the issue we had in December with Melanie's breast augmentation ...

Where to Start with Lifestyle Design

03 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener question about how to start the Lifestyle Design journey. LINKS: Interested in Women's Group Coaching? Apply Now: htt...

My Husband has Blue Balls and I Hate Myself for It!

02 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener's question about low self-esteem and differences in stamina having effects on their love life. LINKS: Interested in Wom...

Why Don't We Say What We Really Mean?

27 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we take a deep dive into the complexities of communication and ask ourselves why most people don't voice their thoughts as much as they think th...

Lifestyle Design: Creating a Life You Love!

19 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk about the practical elements of lifestyle design; everything from discovering what you actually want to do, to figuring out the steps to...

Marriage, Humanity, Manipulation, Concept of Self, and More!

14 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today Seth and Melanie talk about the marital impact of diving deeper into concepts such as self-understanding, manipulation, humanity and so much mor...

Studley Family 2022 Update

07 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Seth and Melanie talk about all the crazy things they are going through right now from a death in Melanie's family to everyone and their mother gettin...

Brooke & Jerry Rosell: From Good to Great

22 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk with our clients Brooke and Jerry Rosell about their decision to do coaching when their marriage wasn't bad, but they knew it could be b...

Justin & Lindy Pardee: Coaching Through COVID

15 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk with our clients Justin and Lindy Pardee about the impact coaching had on their lives through the hardest time in recent history, when t...

Paul & Robin Vedder: Saving a Marriage on the Edge

09 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk with our dear friends Paul and Robin Vedder about how coaching transformed their marriage, their family, and their lives. WARNING! There...

Welcome to Coaching Month!

06 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to Coaching Month! We will be sharing real stories from real clients about how working with us has impacted lives, saved marriages, increased ...

Creating a New FOO

24 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we explore ways to create the Family Of Origin that you WANT for your family unit and your own children! LINKS: Join Seth's new Mastermind: ...

Healing FOO Wounds and Setting Boundaries with Monica Tanner

17 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk with Monica Tanner of the Brighter Side Of Marriage Podcast to explore what it means to identify and heal old Family Of Origin wounds, a...

Hidden FOO!

10 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we explore how Family Of Origin sneaks its way into EVERYTHING from what we eat to how we talk to our spouse! LINKS https://anatomyofus.com/...

Intro to FOOvember (Family of Origin) with Steven Murphy of The Nook Podcast

03 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today marks the start of FOOvember! We're kicking it off by sharing our amazing interview with Steven Murphy of The Nook Podcast, where we talk all ab...

SEX: Can Solo Masturbation Help Your Marriage?

29 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we tackle a very frequently asked question around the idea that solo masturbation might actually enhance your sex life! For more Anatomy of S...

MARRIAGE: Newlyweds: Who Owns What?

27 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we tackle the saying, "What's yours is mine and what's mine is yours."   LINKS https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/thestud...

MARRIAGE: What Divorce Teaches Us About Marriage

20 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we explore what we can learn about Marriage from exploring the most common Divorce Statistics.   LINKS https://www.thestudleys.com/ http...

MARRIAGE: 5 Marriage Myths that need to DIE!

13 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we explore 5 marriage myths that are ruining relationships all over the world!   LINKS https://www.thestudleys.com/ https://www.patreon....

MARRIAGE: Do Husbands Really Needs to Lead?

06 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We live in a modern age, does our martial leadership need to change with the times? See what we think about men and leadership in marriage!   LINK...

MARRIAGE: The Genius Zone

29 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we ask the AMAZING Dr. Gay Hendricks all about his new book, The Genius Zone!   LINKS https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/...

SEX: Grow Your Sexual Vocabulary

24 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk about the importance of expanding the way that you talk about sex and intimacy in order to have BETTER sex and intimacy! When we can imp...

MARRIAGE: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

22 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener question about what to do when your partner seems non-committal.   LINKS https://www.thestudleys.com/ https://www.p...

MARRIAGE: The Power Of Positivity

15 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we explore the power of positivity in marriage with Hope & Kadero Watson of Everyday With H&K. We talk about faith in God, H&K's fertility journ...

MARRIAGE: Midlife Crisis or Midlife Glow Up?

08 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are blasting past the stupid thinking around having a Midlife Crisis and instead we are focusing on a positive twist with a Midlife Glow Up! ...

MARRIAGE: Grit, Growth, and Changing Your Game

01 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk about grit, growth, and changing your game, with former NFL player and America Ninja Warrior turned life coach and entrepreneur Anthony ...

SEX: How You Do Sex Is How You Do Life

27 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we dive into the saying "How you do sex is how you do life," and we uncover the many truths that statement can reveal about our relationship. Yo...

MARRIAGE: Men, Mental Health, & Money Part 1

25 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Seth sits down with Rich Jones of Paychecks and Balances and they dive right into the conversation about the importance of having a message that you c...

FAMILY: Back to School

18 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we talk about practical ways to make this school year easier for BOTH parents, more effective and helpful for kids, and more fun all around!  ...

SEX: 6 Pillars of Intimacy

11 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking with the amazing Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo of "One Extraordinary Marriage" about the 6 Pillars of Intimacy. Every couple needs to ...

MARRIAGE: Invest in Your Marriage

05 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we explore what it means to invest in your marriage, how it impacts your daily life, and what happens if you don't invest. Plus we share the man...

MARRIAGE: What to do When Both of You Have Trust Issues

28 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener question about what to do when BOTH partners have trust issues from past relationships.   LINKS Join us at the Back t...

MARRIAGE: My Husband's Great at Taking Care of Himself

21 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we tackle a listener question about a husband who never seems to think about his wife and kids!   LINKS Join us at the Back to Basics Boot...

SEX: Sexual Energy with Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt

16 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, we discuss what it looks like to lean into and explore sexual energy. Sign up on Patreon for part 2 of this interview titled "Sacr...

FAMILY: The Yes Brain and The Power of Showing Up

14 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Our interview with author, psychotherapist, and educator Dr. Tina Payne Bryson offers us a much-needed perspective on how to discipline more effective...

MARRIAGE: Building Self-Confidence as a Husband and Man

07 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I'm going solo today talking to the men and husbands about how we can show up for our wives and children in a way that makes them feel protected, safe...

MARRIAGE: My Husband Drinks Too Much

30 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we explore the impact of alcohol addiction on marriage, we share ways to identify an addiction, look for underlying causes, and offer helpful id...

SEX: Your Arousal is NOT My Responsibility (Pt 1)

25 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Seth and I hash out our sex & intimacy issues in REAL-TIME! We cover Family Of Origin, Unspoken Expectations, and the Invisible Rulebook in the in-dep...

Our FAVORITE Personal Growth Resources!

23 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We get requests all the time about our favorite personal growth resources, and today's the day that we share them all (almost)!   LINKS Join us ...

MARRIAGE: Why Am I Pushing My Wife Away?

16 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we answer a listener question about what to do when trust issues are causing you to push your partner away.   LINKS Join us at the Back to...

MARRIAGE: Shana James of the Man Alive Podcast

09 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are talking about the world of men and emotions with coach, counselor, and TEDx speaker, Shana James, of the Man Alive Podcast.   LINKS ...

MARRIAGE: Egalitarianism with Camden Morgante

02 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We explore Egalitarianism with Dr. Camden Morgante and talk about the positive impact that it can have on marriage and relationships.   LINKS Jo...

SEX: Foreplay: 5 Myths We Need to Talk About

28 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Seth and Melanie debunk some of the dumbest foreplay myths out there and help bring you some helpful tips to improve your foreplay game!   For more...

MARRIAGE: The Order of Man with Ryan and Trish Michler

26 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We catch up with Ryan Michler of the Order Of Man Podcast and his wife Trish to tackle what it means to be a man in marriage, how to work to your stre...

FAMILY: Shameless Parenting with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

20 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Our guest today, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, joins to talk through her new book Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident...

MARRIAGE: I Like It When You. . .

10 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we explore the magical concept of simply telling your partner what they do that you enjoy. It sounds simple enough, but so many couples don't do...

FAMILY: Step In Where You Can

05 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Each parent has different strengths, and today we talk about ways to work toward those strengths and to support each other in parenting.   LINKS ...

MARRIAGE: Growth Mindset, Marriage, Money, and Alcohol

03 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Seth talks with our good friend, Paul Vedder, about the impact of having a growth mindset on his life and marriage, and his personal journey to change...

SEX: Makin' Sex Tapes

30 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we 'get the juice' but our partner just isn't in the mood, or maybe they aren't with us. Times like these call for creating a good ol' $exta...