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Boost Your Self Worth Finding Your True Self-Worth | Personal Development Unplugged Have you ever felt like you're just not enough? I've been there too. In today's episode of Personal Development Unplugged, I'm opening up about the journey to genuine self-worth and how it can transform every aspect of your life. I want to talk honestly about what it feels like to be truly comfortable in your own skin—to trust yourself, honour your achievements, and face life's challenges with quiet confidence. This isn't about perfection; it's about embracing who you really are. In our conversation today, I'm sharing: A simple visualization practice that helped me reconnect with my authentic self The finger-thumb technique I use daily to remind myself of my worth when doubts creep in How I identified the core fears holding me back (and how you can too) The exact questions I ask myself to challenge those limiting beliefs we all struggle with These aren't just concepts—they're real practices that have made a difference in my life, and I believe they can help you too. If something in this episode speaks to you, please share it with someone who might need to hear this message. We're all in this growth journey together. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/437-boost-your-self-worth/ If you'd like more conversations like this one, subscribe to Personal Development Unplugged. I'd love to connect with you weekly as we navigate this path to self-discovery together. What small step will you take today to honour your worth? I'd love to hear about it. 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Who wants to embrace your qualities? Who wants to have that knowingness about themselves? Who wants to acknowledge, their skills and really know their skills, know abilities. And to know you have the competence and confidence to be able to push through sometimes difficult times to get the success. Who the hell would want that? Hey, just imagine this. And if you can, and if you have time, just close your eyes. If it's safe to do so. If not, you'll think of and you will imagine and visualize what I'm talking about. But if you can just shut out the outside world for a moment, maybe just imagine this. Imagine what it would be like to be totally comfortable. Comfortable in you, comfortable in your body, comfortable in every part of your appearance. Comfortable with the goals that you've set for yourself. Really comfortable with that. Comfortable in the achievements that you've already made. And because of those achievements and your competence, you have mastery. Knowing you can do what you know and know what you do. That's having complete mastery in your abilities. Yet you're curious to stretch even further. What would that be like? What would it be like to just simply enjoy life, enjoy being you and all that attracts you? And I see yourself now being that person, having all that self worth. Listen to the internal voice, how you speak, how you move. Also notice the pictures you make in your mind when you're this comfortable. And maybe just notice way you breathe and you move your body in such a way knowing all of that. And as you think of all of that, maybe just get a finger and a thumb and squeeze it together. Now, as you feel that feeling, of this true self worth and say to yourself with an internal voice, this is me. This is M. Me. Squeeze that finger and thumb together just gently and say again, this is me. And remember this feeling. Get your unconscious mind to remember this feeling. Every time you squeeze his finger and thumb together or say the words, this is me, this wonderful feeling of self worth will come flooding back to you. And you can know that the future holds great things for you. So you can remember this feeling, this is you, this is me. And remember it and then let those fingers of thumb just disappeared. Because in effect what we've just done is anchor the real self worth, of you. Because it is what it's cracked up to be, by the way. It really is. And we're going to go over this again in a moment, but let's just think for a moment. What stops us, uh, having this real sense of self worth What stops us, having this real sense of self worth? What stops us? Well, I was thinking about this and for me and it could be just me by the way, could be just me. There's fear. Fear of the unknown. You know, there's so much out there that I don't know and that stops me really accessing my true self worth to go out there and get it, that fear. Maybe it's a fear of what others may think of, you know, that impostor syndrome. And that tends to deplete our self work or our sense of self worth. Can't deplete it because we've got it. And the thing about those thinking about what others may think of you, guess what? Do you know what they're thinking? They're thinking. What are you thinking about them? You're both, well, the both of us, the two of us are more are thinking about each other, not ourselves. Isn't that crazy? Maybe it's that thought, not a belief. It's just like a thought. Who am I to think like this? Who am I to think that I have all this wonderful self worth? Being comfortable in my body, my appearance, my goals, my achievements, knowing who I am and I knowing I can master everything and stretch a little bit, further, enjoy life, enjoy being me. Yeah. Who am I to think that? And that comes down to that old belief of I'm, not good enough, doesn't that? What else, what else stops us? I've told you mine, I've shown you mine. You showed me yours. You fill in the blank. And the thing is, is any of that true? Is it balls? It's P's, isn't it? You've got no facts on any of that. Absolutely none other than M the facts that you make up and exaggerate. You take stuff that isn't the same from the past and push it into the now in the future. Or you think about the worst that could ever happen in the future and have all of this and it's a. Well, it's a wonderful coping mechanism, isn't it? Wonderful coping mechanism. It's in that old reptilian brain of ours. Oh, there's a crack of a twig in the forest. So that saber toothed T is going to attack us and we've got to defend ourselves and be aw wary. No, that's gone now, isn't it? We've got all these wonderful fears that'stilln toa do it. And just think, you know, all that stuff is so unfounded. Yet when you can imagine being that comfortable and when you can imagine being so comfortable in your appearance, your goals, and I say appearance, sometimes we all want to change our appearance, don't we want to get a little bit stronger, a little bit leaner, maybe, maybe put on a bit of weight for some people, whatever it is, that's fine. But we're happy with our parents at the moment. Everybody wants to improve something. our goals, the goals we've achieved and new goals, we want to achieve them, don't we? Be the best version of ourselves being that master, knowing what to do and doing what, you know, all of that stuff. Just simply enjoy life. Remember, squeeze that finger and thumb together now this is me. Yeah. So basically all the Bs that stops you is totally made up. By who? By you. And it's a direct conflict, isn't it? It's a direct conflict that your unconscious mind is trying to protect you so you can be the real you and protect you from all that other stuff that could harm you in your make up is when you really feel that feeling of self worth. Squeeze that finger and thumb together again and say this is me. You feel totally safe because you do what you know, you know what you do. You're simply enjoying life, enjoying being you and all that attracts. Yeah. So you know, there's so many ways now to be able to change and let go of that fear. And probably I'll do a load more episodes around this. You have to have the will to do whatever it takes to be yourself So if this doesn't get you, I'll get you on another one. Because we are all so much better, more than we think we are. Whatever you think you are, you're more than that. Even when you squeeze that finger and thumb together and feel that feeling again saying this is me, you're actually more than that. Isn't that awesome? But how'd you get there? How do you get there? Well, the first thing is you really have to want it. You don't have to know how that's gonna come, but you have to really want it. And when you really want it, you have this thing that I ask my clients, you've got to have this. You have to be prepared to do Whatever it takes, you have to have the will to do whatever it takes. And that's it. That's your commitment. And who cannot have the will to do whatever it takes to be themselves? Remember, squeeze a finger and thumb together. This is me. That's your commitment to you. That's all. That's all. All you have to do. I'll guide you, I'll help you. You actually know how to do it. To be fair, I'm just gonna get you to re. Remember, that's all it is. Your commitment. Be prepared to do whatever it takes. Have that will to do whatever it takes. And the thing is, even when you have that will to do whatever it takes, and you think you fail on, something and you think, you say even miserably and you berate yourself. Cause we do, don't we? Or is that just me? We get that critical inner voice giving us a right old bollickin, I told you so. Oh, you're such a dumb whatever thing is. No, no, that's what we do already. And guess what? It didn't work. It doesn't protect you. It doesn't make you step up to the plate. It doesn't allow you to get and access all the skills that you have, all those achievements, all that inner stuff. And I was joking a little bit. Cause I, stretched it, didn't I? Stretched it. But let's get just a little, if not, ah, a lot compassionate. Cause I love compassion. Not so much on the empathy side, unless it's good stuff, joyous stuff. But I love compassion. So where do you start? Well, you start with you. Because that's the only person we're talking about. It's called sel Self worth. It's in the title, Self. And when you really go back to do whatever it takes and you take hold of yourself, you do it by stopping, pausing, taking a breath before you take action. That's all it is. Well, that's not all it is, but that's part of it. And in that moment, or sometimes you have to put time aside because you don't get it. And sometimes in the evening, you suddenly remember, you get compassionate, you be kind, you get supportive. As if you're. Well, you are your best friend of yourself, because you are. You've just forgotten it. In fact, if you catch yourself in the moment, what, I want you to say is step to one side, take a breath, pause, stop, and then talk to that imaginary you that where you were and speak to as a best friend. Hey, pick yourself up. You're better than that. I know you have. You've got more skills. You've got so much about you. We made a little error. It doesn't matter. We've learned from it. We're going to do this. I'll support you in whatever way I can. Speak to yourself as a best friend. What can we learn from this? I said what it is. What can we learn? Because when you learn and you become curious, you'll find you'll never want to do it again. You won't do again because you'll find other, other ways, other skills. And then you can be thankful. And when you're thankful, you have that feeling of gratitude. And that feeling of gratitude, you can't be anything other than joyful because it's just a lesson. And lessons come along to teach us. We need that lesson to teach us to what to do just so you can just then, imagine how you could have been different. That's all you have to do, you know, your best friend standing and looking at you and saying, well, how could we have done that thing differently to get a better result? And when you imagine that, you see it, you feel it, because it's all about feeling it. It. When you feel it, you learn. And your unconscious mind really gets it, really does. I mean, I like to journal this stuff because it's different when it's out of my head and it's on paper. And everyone has these trials, these challenges, these mishaps. Of course they do. But it's how you deal with them, isn't it? That's all. That's what defines you as it were, how you deal with it. So if you stop, you pause, you breathe, then you take action and you act as your best friend. You can then always deal with anything, but it just goes, what you know, when you think like that, you just go, what are we going to do differently now? Now is the word now. And then feel it and be grateful. Squeeze finger and thumb together and say, this is me Thank you for the lesson. They'jocko Willick. I get to do this. Thank you for the learning. And, by the way, who would have done that? Who did that? Squeeze that finger and thumb together and say, this is me. I did. I did that. Now let's take this one step, further. Remember that feeling. Squeezed that finger and thumb together. This is me. Well, what would happen if every day, every time you did one thing well, you squeezed that finger and thumb together and said, this is me. Get that feeling. Stack it. Stack the anchor. Even if you start to think about things failing, maybe you get that fear, what you do is squeeze that finger and thumb together. This is me. Feel it again. Get into a different state, this feeling and state of self wor and that will allow you to access all the skills you need, all the wonderful achievements and everything about you will be there for you. And then just begin to think how. Well if I've got this fear, it's a lovely little notice to me. It's my unconscious mind giving me a little bit of protection. So how do I want it to happen? That's all there is. How would I like it to happen? How do I want to have it go? remember. Cause I'm gonna do whatever it takes. Finger and thumb together. This is me. Yeah. And sometimes if you just at the end of the day, remember the good things. Just remember the good things. Just for a moment or two, just go over your day. Remember how you made things happen. Or if you can't think of any good things like that, go back to this feeling. Just before you go to bed, just before you. Well not before you go to bed but before you close your eyes or as you close your eyes to go to sleep. Squeeze that finger and thumb together and imagine being so comfortable in you. Imagine being so comfortable in your body and your appearance. yeah. Thankful for all the goals that you achieved. Grateful for all the goals that are going to come into your awareness. Being so comfortable knowing that you can do what you know and that you know what to do because you're a mastery of your abilities yet you're curious to stretch even further to learn more. Let squeeze that finger and thumb together and know that you're simply go goingna enjoy life, enjoy being you and all that remembers all that will attract and you will re remember this is me and then sleep well and then as you wake up maybe just squeeze that finger and thumb together again and say this is me. Let's keep firing off that anchor of true self worth. 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Let's spish anxiety. Let's be so competent in our confidence and confident in our competence and all that goes with all that stuff. Yeah, let me know and if there's anything you want. Well, or you had difficulties, maybe I didn't explain this properly, or there's something that you'd really love as a topic to discuss or a process to have. Let me know. [email protected]. anyway, that's enough from me. You go enjoy. Squeeze that finger of thumb together. This is me. Go fly, my friend. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged. Personal development [Unplugged] [podcast][NLP][Hypnosis][self development]self improvement][awareness]