You may feel dissatisfaction or discomfort in some realm of life that you want to shift. But where to start and how to succeed? In this second episode in a series on intentional living, Dr. Regan identifies ways to create steps toward a goal, identify strategies, and monitor success. As referenced in the current episode: First Episode in Momentum for Behavior series Dr. Regan's Resources Course for Clinicians - Interventions in Autism: Helping Clients Stay Centered, Connect with Others, and Engage in Life Course for Clinicians: ASD Differential Diagnoses and Associated Characteristics Book: Understanding Autism in Adults and Aging Adults, 2nd ed Audiobook Book: Understanding Autistic Behaviors Autism in the Adult website homepage Website Resources for Clinicians Read the transcript below: 1 00:00:01,830 -- 00:00:02,250 Hi, 2 00:00:02,259 -- 00:00:02,960 everyone. 3 00:00:02,970 -- 00:00:04,380 This is your host, 4 00:00:04,389 -- 00:00:04,829 Dr. 5 00:00:04,840 -- 00:00:05,980 Theresa Regan, 6 00:00:06,250 -- 00:00:11,579 introducing this next episode of autism in the adult podcast. 7 00:00:11,939 -- 00:00:13,779 I'm a neuropsychologist. 8 00:00:13,789 -- 00:00:20,729 So I specialize in understanding how the health of the brain and the connections of the brain impact, 9 00:00:20,739 -- 00:00:21,370 thinking, 10 00:00:21,379 -- 00:00:22,020 skills, 11 00:00:22,030 -- 00:00:22,700 emotions, 12 00:00:22,709 -- 00:00:23,319 behavior, 13 00:00:23,329 -- 00:00:24,569 and personality. 14 00:00:24,790 -- 00:00:30,540 I've worked in hospitals for over 30 years and I'm the mother of a teen on the spectrum. 15 00:00:31,649 -- 00:00:39,250 And did you know that I have a series of three podcast episodes about momentum for activity. 16 00:00:39,619 -- 00:00:43,869 One is about exhaustion and finding balance in momentum. 17 00:00:44,189 -- 00:00:53,000 One of the episodes is about how to gain momentum for activity and the third is how to keep momentum for activity. 18 00:00:53,430 -- 00:00:59,430 You can find these three episodes as episodes number 21, 19 00:00:59,650 -- 00:01:04,489 and 23 In September and October of 2021. 20 00:01:05,000 -- 00:01:07,410 I'll put the link in the show notes. 21 00:01:09,010 -- 00:01:09,449 Today, 22 00:01:09,459 -- 00:01:23,959 we have our second episode of a series about finding some intentionality in um areas of our life where we'd like to grow and maybe challenge ourselves. 23 00:01:23,970 -- 00:01:42,660 Sometimes life is so fast and furious and we get in survival mode or we just get used to living a certain way that we realize we're not really making choices in all the areas of where we put our attention, 24 00:01:42,989 -- 00:01:46,269 uh whether we wanna grow or shift gears. 25 00:01:46,650 -- 00:01:56,300 So the previous episode was this introduction of thinking about where are we in our life right now? 26 00:01:56,650 -- 00:02:02,059 And if you can identify areas where you would like to find more meaning, 27 00:02:02,449 -- 00:02:04,260 uh a bit more challenge. 28 00:02:04,269 -- 00:02:06,160 If you'd like to change direction, 29 00:02:06,370 -- 00:02:10,770 then we're going to focus together on living intentionally. 30 00:02:11,520 -- 00:02:23,789 The first episode covered a few things and one is that I think the first step toward being intentional is having this increased self-awareness. 31 00:02:24,149 -- 00:02:37,429 And I feel like that's one of the greatest blessings of understanding our neurology and going through the diagnostic process about autism to see what, 32 00:02:37,440 -- 00:02:41,460 how am I wired and what does my system need? 33 00:02:41,779 -- 00:02:43,649 How do I interact with people? 34 00:02:43,660 -- 00:02:46,210 What do I find uh joy in, 35 00:02:46,220 -- 00:02:46,770 in life? 36 00:02:46,779 -- 00:02:54,289 What drains me and we have this elevated understanding of ourselves. 37 00:02:54,300 -- 00:02:57,289 Um That is part of that process. 38 00:02:58,300 -- 00:03:02,229 So I think after that process of self awareness, 39 00:03:02,699 -- 00:03:09,410 if we do identify areas where we would like to grow or expand in some way, 40 00:03:09,919 -- 00:03:11,309 one way to do that. 41 00:03:11,320 -- 00:03:17,339 And we covered this in the initial episode is to think of categories in our life. 42 00:03:17,380 -- 00:03:24,490 And I invited you to do this um to see where you might want to shift. 43 00:03:26,479 -- 00:03:32,490 One of the categories we talked about was within the area of a special interest. 44 00:03:33,270 -- 00:03:37,470 The second was within the area of health and wellness. 45 00:03:38,250 -- 00:03:40,559 The third was regulation, 46 00:03:40,889 -- 00:03:46,699 that means the ability to stay centered with things like alertness, 47 00:03:46,889 -- 00:03:49,880 attention and emotions. 48 00:03:50,809 -- 00:03:53,380 We also talked about 1/4 category, 49 00:03:53,389 -- 00:03:54,729 relationships. 50 00:03:55,169 -- 00:04:04,699 1/5 as everyday tasks kind of like staying on top of those chores and daily things that can be hard to get a rhythm for. 51 00:04:05,130 -- 00:04:10,600 And the sixth would be something like family and household culture. 52 00:04:10,880 -- 00:04:14,130 So if you're living in a household with other people, 53 00:04:14,350 -- 00:04:19,170 and these are people who are wired differently than each other. 54 00:04:19,179 -- 00:04:26,690 Sometimes focusing on the culture of the household can be a rewarding area of growth. 55 00:04:29,399 -- 00:04:30,410 Today, 56 00:04:30,420 -- 00:04:38,470 I would like you to bring your thoughts of what areas you would like to find more meaning in and to have more intention for. 57 00:04:38,730 -- 00:05:01,500 And we're going to talk about some basic um guidelines for making goals that you can stick with and that you can see change um in these areas without feeling overwhelmed and without kind of stopping in the middle and like our um New Year's resolutions. 58 00:05:01,510 -- 00:05:01,980 We don't want to, 59 00:05:02,059 -- 00:05:03,109 to be like that, 60 00:05:03,440 -- 00:05:12,369 but we want you to have this intention towards something and to give you some structure of how big should the goal be and, 61 00:05:12,779 -- 00:05:16,399 and how quickly should I work toward it and all of these things, 62 00:05:16,410 -- 00:05:20,869 I just want to give you some framework to see if this framework helps you. 63 00:05:21,730 -- 00:05:26,579 The first thing I'd like you to do is to take stock of where you are now. 64 00:05:27,059 -- 00:05:30,279 So if you chose a health and wellness goal, 65 00:05:30,290 -- 00:05:33,709 if you chose a household culture goal, 66 00:05:33,799 -- 00:05:40,970 I just want you to think about where you are right now in this area. 67 00:05:41,260 -- 00:05:45,100 So don't focus on the end goal. 68 00:05:45,109 -- 00:05:47,350 Let's just focus on where you are. 69 00:05:49,690 -- 00:05:53,500 Someone may say for health and wellness. 70 00:05:53,510 -- 00:05:53,980 Well, 71 00:05:53,989 -- 00:06:00,299 where I'm at is that I probably walk 10 minutes after work twice a week. 72 00:06:00,989 -- 00:06:13,000 Another person in the area of everyday tasks may want to really stay on top of bill paying and financial management. 73 00:06:13,010 -- 00:06:14,989 And so they may say, 74 00:06:15,000 -- 00:06:15,279 well, 75 00:06:15,290 -- 00:06:26,760 where I'm at right now is that I tend to um go overboard and spend more than I have in my bank account about four times a month. 76 00:06:26,989 -- 00:06:38,209 So we're just taking stock whatever your category is for growth and meaning maybe take stock of where you are now. 77 00:06:39,250 -- 00:06:47,000 And um knowing that you would like to be in a different spot at some point in the future. 78 00:06:48,059 -- 00:06:55,269 The next step is to create a goal where you're just going to take that one step forward. 79 00:06:56,130 -- 00:07:02,420 Um What we want to do is to make this goal really achievable. 80 00:07:02,429 -- 00:07:05,779 We want to set ourselves up for success. 81 00:07:05,790 -- 00:07:13,829 We want to be able to see the end of the goal and we want the goal to be on the lower side of effort. 82 00:07:14,720 -- 00:07:23,880 One way to create this type of goal is to think about time spent toward your ultimate destination. 83 00:07:26,269 -- 00:07:27,730 For example, 84 00:07:27,739 -- 00:07:32,179 in the area of movement and exercise. 85 00:07:32,190 -- 00:07:44,149 Someone may realize that they're walking a certain amount after work every week and they may add time to that current routine. 86 00:07:44,700 -- 00:07:50,730 So someone who wants to have more movement in their life or to get outdoors more frequently, 87 00:07:50,869 -- 00:07:52,529 perhaps they say, 88 00:07:52,540 -- 00:07:52,869 well, 89 00:07:52,880 -- 00:08:04,049 I'm going to add 15 minutes a week to my current routine of being outside or of walking in the neighborhood and moving. 90 00:08:04,290 -- 00:08:04,570 Um, 91 00:08:04,579 -- 00:08:06,829 just getting that movement in, 92 00:08:06,839 -- 00:08:08,549 maybe that's their goal. 93 00:08:10,040 -- 00:08:16,630 Another person who wants to work toward achieving skills in a certain area, 94 00:08:16,640 -- 00:08:26,850 maybe they're working toward a promotion or they would like to learn a new skill for fun within perhaps within their special interests. 95 00:08:27,929 -- 00:08:35,580 The goal may be to spend a certain amount of time per week learning this new skill. 96 00:08:36,440 -- 00:08:39,690 If they're currently not learning anything about it, 97 00:08:39,700 -- 00:08:42,750 they might want to start with 20 minutes a week. 98 00:08:43,030 -- 00:08:45,190 If they're already doing 20, 99 00:08:45,200 -- 00:08:48,049 they might want to increase by 15, 100 00:08:48,849 -- 00:08:54,260 whatever the stepwise time goal might be for you, 101 00:08:54,270 -- 00:08:57,780 that would make sense in your area of interest. 102 00:08:58,530 -- 00:09:02,979 That may be a way that you'd like to construct what your actual goal is. 103 00:09:04,049 -- 00:09:13,780 You can also think of it as doing a certain fraction or a certain percentage of the work toward the ultimate goal. 104 00:09:14,739 -- 00:09:20,969 If someone would like to have intentionality in the area of their special interest, 105 00:09:21,580 -- 00:09:22,479 publishing, 106 00:09:22,489 -- 00:09:32,570 some of their short stories may be a goal where they're at currently is they have a collection of 50 short stories, 107 00:09:33,049 -- 00:09:36,549 most of which are within a science fiction genre. 108 00:09:37,950 -- 00:09:45,770 They've never taken a class on creative writing or on marketing for their own business. 109 00:09:46,549 -- 00:09:58,960 What they might do is sit down with a friend and talk about all the steps that they might want to take to make this publishing goal most successful. 110 00:10:00,289 -- 00:10:02,719 They may identify 10, 111 00:10:02,729 -- 00:10:03,460 15, 112 00:10:03,469 -- 00:10:04,760 20 steps. 113 00:10:05,460 -- 00:10:10,059 One might be taking a free online course in creative writing. 114 00:10:11,330 -- 00:10:20,020 Another might be joining a local writers group in their community to become part of a network for writers. 115 00:10:22,270 -- 00:10:29,919 Another goal might be learning how to create a website or how to publish their own material online. 116 00:10:30,919 -- 00:10:35,179 They would want to take one of these multiple steps. 117 00:10:35,239 -- 00:10:37,679 So if they've identified 20, 118 00:10:38,179 -- 00:10:49,909 they may just want to take one goal then they'd have to figure out is this goal small enough that I can see the end. 119 00:10:50,270 -- 00:11:05,979 I know I can have success and it doesn't feel too effortful if they're going to sign up for a free online class in creative writing that may feel super easy or it may feel too big. 120 00:11:07,239 -- 00:11:08,880 If it's too big, 121 00:11:09,049 -- 00:11:13,400 you would want to break that task down. 122 00:11:13,739 -- 00:11:23,239 So the first step might be to investigate some free online options to choose from. 123 00:11:25,359 -- 00:11:37,309 If someone has a goal to participate in additional community activities or to get out of the house a bit more often, 124 00:11:38,000 -- 00:11:57,130 they may make a goal to attend one community event per month uh with a friend Or they may make a goal to spend 15 minutes at a community event before they decide whether they want to come home. 125 00:11:57,559 -- 00:12:00,200 This just gives a bit of structure, 126 00:12:00,309 -- 00:12:12,630 but the whole process is meant to just help make one step forward and not to have a goal that's too big or too effortful. 127 00:12:12,679 -- 00:12:14,849 So we should be able to see the end. 128 00:12:14,859 -- 00:12:19,989 We should know that it takes some effort that it takes us out of our comfort zone, 129 00:12:20,000 -- 00:12:23,359 but that we also are set up for success. 130 00:12:24,559 -- 00:12:27,710 The next step would be thinking of a timeline. 131 00:12:29,359 -- 00:12:41,849 If someone has a goal in the area of regulation and they identify that they would like to be more intentional about their sleep wake cycle. 132 00:12:43,400 -- 00:12:50,000 They may determine that they'll watch how they do with their goal across two weeks. 133 00:12:50,690 -- 00:12:58,320 Perhaps their goal is to get up at the same time every day and after two weeks, 134 00:12:58,330 -- 00:13:10,919 they can evaluate how easy or difficult that goal was to achieve for someone who's wanting to stay on top of the dishes every day. 135 00:13:11,250 -- 00:13:24,380 They may also pick a week or two weeks as a time frame that they can monitor their success or stop and reevaluate if the stepwise goal feels like it's been too difficult. 136 00:13:24,880 -- 00:13:32,059 But here comes the most important step we've looked at creating that step forward goal, 137 00:13:32,710 -- 00:13:34,520 creating a time frame. 138 00:13:35,140 -- 00:13:43,190 And this third part I would say is the most important this is picking a strategy to have success. 139 00:13:44,140 -- 00:13:47,270 What does not work is just saying, 140 00:13:47,280 -- 00:13:47,630 well, 141 00:13:47,640 -- 00:13:48,880 I'm going to do it. 142 00:13:49,159 -- 00:13:50,630 I've made the goal, 143 00:13:50,640 -- 00:13:54,690 I'm intentional about the goal and I have this time frame. 144 00:13:54,700 -- 00:13:56,710 I'm just going to do it this time, 145 00:13:57,039 -- 00:13:59,890 even though it's been really hard in the past. 146 00:14:00,559 -- 00:14:04,690 What happens with that is that we're able to spurt towards some goal, 147 00:14:04,700 -- 00:14:05,919 success there, 148 00:14:05,929 -- 00:14:08,090 but it's very difficult to maintain. 149 00:14:09,590 -- 00:14:12,719 So what I'd like you to do when you have a goal, 150 00:14:12,729 -- 00:14:14,099 you have a time frame, 151 00:14:14,109 -- 00:14:16,359 you have a little chunk that you're gonna work on. 152 00:14:17,320 -- 00:14:18,630 Say to yourself, 153 00:14:18,640 -- 00:14:22,549 what's my strategy for accomplishing this goal? 154 00:14:23,780 -- 00:14:26,390 Never move forward without a strategy. 155 00:14:26,659 -- 00:14:28,349 If you can't think of one, 156 00:14:28,359 -- 00:14:30,710 ask a friend or a family member, 157 00:14:34,210 -- 00:14:42,869 one strategy could be in the area of remembering how can I remember to take my supplies to school? 158 00:14:42,979 -- 00:14:46,979 How can I remember to do the dishes before I go to bed? 159 00:14:48,650 -- 00:14:53,409 Another strategy may have to do with adding fun to the task. 160 00:14:53,770 -- 00:14:56,340 How can I make this task less, 161 00:14:56,349 -- 00:14:57,260 boring, 162 00:14:57,270 -- 00:14:58,750 less mundane? 163 00:14:59,320 -- 00:15:04,469 Maybe I could do it while music is playing or an audio book, 164 00:15:04,760 -- 00:15:11,419 maybe I could make a race out of it to see if I can get it done within a certain amount of time. 165 00:15:12,340 -- 00:15:22,229 Perhaps there are ways that I could use a strategy to make the task easier learning about how to streamline the task, 166 00:15:22,289 -- 00:15:26,640 looking at other ways people do the task to make it easier, 167 00:15:26,650 -- 00:15:28,140 take up less time. 168 00:15:30,210 -- 00:15:35,460 Another strategy I could use is offering myself a reward for success. 169 00:15:36,200 -- 00:15:40,710 Maybe I say if I'm successful for eight weeks in a row, 170 00:15:40,969 -- 00:15:46,030 I get to buy myself this thing that is not too expensive, 171 00:15:46,039 -- 00:15:47,179 but usually, 172 00:15:47,340 -- 00:15:47,630 you know, 173 00:15:47,640 -- 00:15:49,510 that would be off limits for me. 174 00:15:49,520 -- 00:15:54,429 But I'm gonna reward myself after I reach this time frame. 175 00:15:55,450 -- 00:15:57,719 After you've chosen a strategy, 176 00:15:58,099 -- 00:15:59,659 you have a time frame, 177 00:15:59,669 -- 00:16:03,179 you have a small goal that you're set up for success with. 178 00:16:03,190 -- 00:16:08,789 Then it's time to put your plan into action after the week or two weeks. 179 00:16:08,799 -- 00:16:15,830 What you're going to do is to kind of have an evaluation and debriefing with yourself. 180 00:16:15,840 -- 00:16:21,020 The first part of the evaluation is I achieve my goal. 181 00:16:21,190 -- 00:16:36,049 Also think about how effortful was it to achieve what I did achieve if you achieve the goal and you were consistent about it across two weeks and it did not feel too hard or effortful. 182 00:16:36,229 -- 00:16:42,700 You may decide that you're ready to add another step forward goal to your momentum. 183 00:16:43,010 -- 00:16:47,739 If you did 10% of the small task toward your goal, 184 00:16:47,750 -- 00:16:58,530 you could add on another 10% goal or you could add on another 15 minutes of the type of task you were doing to meet your goal. 185 00:16:58,539 -- 00:17:05,660 Remember to keep a strategy if you need to shift based on your new goal, 186 00:17:05,670 -- 00:17:07,530 your new step forward goal, 187 00:17:07,540 -- 00:17:08,949 be sure to do that. 188 00:17:12,650 -- 00:17:16,459 If you achieved your goal, 189 00:17:16,699 -- 00:17:23,500 but you pulled it off and are really tired and don't know if you could do that again, 190 00:17:24,098 -- 00:17:30,218 then you probably need to evaluate whether the goal is small enough, 191 00:17:30,229 -- 00:17:37,869 whether it's easy enough in the sense that we all have areas of our life that we would say, 192 00:17:38,509 -- 00:17:39,088 you know, 193 00:17:39,098 -- 00:17:40,489 for whatever reason, 194 00:17:40,499 -- 00:17:42,909 this area really wipes me out. 195 00:17:42,918 -- 00:17:48,759 I just have a huge struggle in this category of my life. 196 00:17:48,769 -- 00:17:51,568 Maybe you need to start in a different category. 197 00:17:52,280 -- 00:17:55,569 But if you can make the step forward goal easier, 198 00:17:55,930 -- 00:17:56,930 do that. 199 00:17:57,510 -- 00:18:00,780 If you can use a strategy that will help you more, 200 00:18:00,849 -- 00:18:02,089 go ahead and do that, 201 00:18:05,170 -- 00:18:18,390 you wouldn't want to add on to your plan until you got that goal achieved in a way that starts to feel pretty effortless like I'm doing this because this is what I do. 202 00:18:18,560 -- 00:18:19,979 I have momentum for it. 203 00:18:19,989 -- 00:18:27,150 It's built into my routine and then you don't have to effort as much to keep it going. 204 00:18:27,479 -- 00:18:30,609 That's when you add just a little bit more to it. 205 00:18:32,439 -- 00:18:35,170 What do you do if you did not meet your goal? 206 00:18:35,209 -- 00:18:35,530 Well, 207 00:18:35,540 -- 00:18:36,859 that's fine too. 208 00:18:37,020 -- 00:18:42,079 You would step back and evaluate why you may ask yourself. 209 00:18:42,089 -- 00:18:46,449 Did I use the strategy that I created for this goal? 210 00:18:46,459 -- 00:18:52,020 If you did and you were not successful with the goal, 211 00:18:52,089 -- 00:19:00,119 you probably have to reevaluate the strategy or you may need to add another strategy on top of that. 212 00:19:01,040 -- 00:19:04,150 Maybe you used a remembering goal, 213 00:19:04,310 -- 00:19:06,969 but that wasn't enough to give you the momentum. 214 00:19:06,979 -- 00:19:12,750 You need to just get that new behavioral set into your repertoire. 215 00:19:13,130 -- 00:19:15,849 Maybe you also need to make it easier, 216 00:19:15,859 -- 00:19:19,030 make it fun or give yourself a reward. 217 00:19:19,500 -- 00:19:21,829 Maybe you need someone to be accountable to, 218 00:19:21,839 -- 00:19:23,589 maybe that's your strategy. 219 00:19:24,430 -- 00:19:26,130 You should also ask yourself, 220 00:19:26,140 -- 00:19:28,089 did I use my strategy? 221 00:19:28,859 -- 00:19:30,949 If I didn't reach my goals? 222 00:19:30,959 -- 00:19:38,089 Maybe it was because I had the intention of using reminders or making it fun. 223 00:19:38,209 -- 00:19:41,680 But I didn't actually follow through with that. 224 00:19:43,589 -- 00:19:44,130 Well, 225 00:19:44,140 -- 00:19:46,849 then you would evaluate that as well. 226 00:19:47,130 -- 00:19:49,209 Is this strategy too hard? 227 00:19:49,910 -- 00:19:54,449 Is it too complex and involved in energy draining? 228 00:19:54,800 -- 00:19:57,290 What other strategies could you think of? 229 00:19:57,599 -- 00:20:03,280 Do you need to layer something in or do you have to scrap the first strategy and try again? 230 00:20:04,209 -- 00:20:08,239 What strategies do other people use or find successful? 231 00:20:08,869 -- 00:20:12,020 What ideas can you glean from other people? 232 00:20:12,030 -- 00:20:16,920 You're always able to say no to someone's suggestion of a strategy, 233 00:20:16,949 -- 00:20:19,640 but only if you have a counter offer. 234 00:20:19,800 -- 00:20:21,000 If your boss says, 235 00:20:21,010 -- 00:20:21,260 hey, 236 00:20:21,270 -- 00:20:22,839 this still isn't working. 237 00:20:22,959 -- 00:20:25,199 I'd like you to try this strategy. 238 00:20:25,619 -- 00:20:26,540 You can say no, 239 00:20:26,550 -- 00:20:28,660 I'd rather not use that strategy, 240 00:20:28,670 -- 00:20:31,339 but only if you have a counter offer. 241 00:20:32,189 -- 00:20:37,089 If you can say I've thought of this other strategy, 242 00:20:37,099 -- 00:20:38,729 then you can run with that. 243 00:20:39,609 -- 00:20:40,020 Now, 244 00:20:40,030 -- 00:20:49,469 the nice thing about this process is you're learning not only perhaps a new skill that is your goal. 245 00:20:49,479 -- 00:20:54,829 Um learning how to create a family culture that works in your home. 246 00:20:55,229 -- 00:20:59,780 Uh Learning how to stay regulated in a way that matches you. 247 00:21:00,430 -- 00:21:02,199 You're not only learning those things, 248 00:21:02,209 -- 00:21:06,890 but you're learning this process of growth. 249 00:21:07,150 -- 00:21:12,650 So I wish I were in a different place in this area of my life. 250 00:21:13,739 -- 00:21:17,280 How can I start that shift? 251 00:21:17,290 -- 00:21:22,510 How can I think about doing it without feeling overwhelmed or like, 252 00:21:22,520 -- 00:21:24,689 I just can't get any, 253 00:21:25,069 -- 00:21:25,939 um, 254 00:21:26,219 -- 00:21:30,790 I can't get any forward momentum toward change. 255 00:21:30,910 -- 00:21:31,410 Well, 256 00:21:31,420 -- 00:21:38,089 this is a way that you can practice a process for living with more intention. 257 00:21:38,510 -- 00:21:40,420 Where would I like to be? 258 00:21:40,430 -- 00:21:42,500 Where am I right now? 259 00:21:42,819 -- 00:21:47,060 How can I make small steps forward to guarantee that? 260 00:21:47,069 -- 00:21:48,959 I know I can have success. 261 00:21:49,459 -- 00:21:56,979 How can I create strategy and timelines and then evaluate what needs to be shifted? 262 00:21:57,729 -- 00:22:03,819 And what you'll notice too is you may get a great momentum for your goal. 263 00:22:03,829 -- 00:22:10,810 Maybe you are doing the dishes every night or you're moving for 15 minutes after work every day. 264 00:22:11,079 -- 00:22:17,500 What will happen is you'll have momentum for that for maybe a long period of time. 265 00:22:18,290 -- 00:22:19,839 Then at some point, 266 00:22:19,849 -- 00:22:31,000 something in your life will change and you'll realize that now the strategies you were using aren't really gonna work quite as well anymore. 267 00:22:31,170 -- 00:22:34,630 And that's really part of that normal human process too. 268 00:22:34,920 -- 00:22:36,369 And because you know, 269 00:22:36,380 -- 00:22:49,859 the process of creating strategies of evaluating things of making these small steps forward that can be successful when you do need to reevaluate and get back on board with the goal. 270 00:22:50,290 -- 00:23:00,040 That's something that you can go back to that skill in itself is something you keep with you and you can use in lots of different areas of life. 271 00:23:00,050 -- 00:23:03,780 We will continue to talk about living with intention, 272 00:23:03,790 -- 00:23:09,844 meaning growth and having success with all steps forward. 273 00:23:09,954 -- 00:23:17,564 Next time when we talk more about strategies and goals within these different categories, 274 00:23:17,574 -- 00:23:20,025 we mentioned special interests, 275 00:23:20,035 -- 00:23:22,135 health and wellness regulation, 276 00:23:22,194 -- 00:23:23,255 relationships, 277 00:23:23,265 -- 00:23:26,785 everyday tasks and family and household culture. 278 00:23:27,255 -- 00:23:28,785 I hope you'll join me then.

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