In this jewel-box episode of Awkward Etiquette: Old Money & New Manners, old money and etiquette expert and author of the Virginia foxhunting dark old money gothic novel Scarlet Fever Kiki Astor takes you on a richly layered tour of Old Money Green—the color that has shaped centuries of taste, architecture, interiors, jewelry, fashion, and even social behavior. From the deep, secretive gloss of Charleston Green, rumored to be a begrudging compromise from the post-Civil War era, to the storied Kelly Green of The Greenbrier, to Elsie de Wolfe's iconic soft greens in her legendary drawing rooms, this episode is a masterclass in how different greens evolved into markers of heritage, refinement, and generational confidence. We explore emeralds, jade, malachite, peridot, how tartan, tweed, and loden green became synonymous with country estates and equestrian culture, and why specific greens appear again and again in heritage interiors, private clubs, fox-hunting culture, English country houses, Newport "cottages," and storied American porches. But Kiki doesn't stop at aesthetics. She dives deep into the etiquette and emotional intelligence behind the color: how to handle the "green-eyed monster" with grace, how envy and jealousy show up in high-society dynamics, how old-money families neutralize competitiveness with ritual, language, and poise, and how to cultivate a quiet confidence that reads as "old money" no matter your background or bank account. Expect witty observations, social-historical details, and plenty of nouveau pauvre self-deprecation as Kiki breaks down: The history and meaning of Charleston Green, Savannah Green, and Oxidized Copper Green on classical American homes Why loden coats, tartan skirts, and forest-to-hunter greens signal insider equestrian and countryside heritage The psychology behind jealousy etiquette and how to manage envy in friendships, relationships, and competitive social circles The role of green in royal fashion, prep school uniforms, Ivy League design, and private club interiors How to incorporate "old money green" into your own wardrobe, home, jewelry box, and daily manners Packed with old money aesthetics, social-skills wisdom, historical context, and chic etiquette insights, this episode is a treasure trove for anyone obsessed with heritage design, timeless style, and becoming the most elegant version of themselves—without losing their sense of humor. Pour yourself an iced mint tea, sit beneath something vaguely chinoiserie, and let's talk green.

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