This week on Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor, we’re diving into the enduring—and often awkward—tradition of the summer houseguest. From the Gilded Age to the Hamptons, summer hosting has long been a cornerstone of old money etiquette and upper-class rituals. But why did houseguests used to stay for weeks (or even months)? And how can you survive it today—whether you’re the host or the one unpacking in someone else’s guest room? Kiki shares the surprisingly elegant history behind long-term summer guests, the unspoken codes of how to be a good houseguest (and host), and what to do when things get awkward—like when you’ve overstayed your welcome or your friend is trying to “pop by” for ten days. Expect practical etiquette advice, personal stories, and subtle boundary-setting tips for modern manners. Topics include: – Old money rules of summer hosting – The art of being a charming houseguest – Setting boundaries with grace – Saying no (without sounding rude) – How long is too long to stay? – Funny (and painful) real-life guest stories Whether you're decamping to someone’s beach house or preparing for your own weekend guests, this episode is your social survival guide. Listen now and brush up on the manners that still matter.

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