In this episode of Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor, we tackle one of the most uncomfortable—and misunderstood—topics in modern society: class. Not money. Not income. Not net worth. Class. From ancient Rome and Greece to modern Europe and North America, this episode explores how class has historically functioned as a system of behavior, duty, values, and conduct—not merely consumption. We trace how class evolved through feudal societies, the rise of the bourgeoisie, Victorian morality, and America's enduring myth of classlessness, revealing why pretending class no longer exists has made people socially confused, status-obsessed, and deeply anxious. We unpack the critical difference between wealth vs class, income vs status, and why high earnings don't automatically translate into elegance, credibility, or social ease. Drawing on ideas like cultural capital, invisible manners, and long-term thinking, this episode explains what actually signals class today—and what merely signals insecurity. You'll learn: The real historical meaning of class (and how we lost the plot) Why class markers have little to do with logos or luxury spending Who actually gatekeeps class, and why gatekeeping exists at all The 3 Generation rulle: How class mobility really works—and why so many families rise quickly only to fall within a few generations Why restraint, privacy, and institutional fluency matter more than visibility How pretending class is "dead" creates fragile elites and chaotic aspirants Finally, we explore why class still matters—not as superiority, but as stewardship, social literacy, and stability—and how to cultivate genuine elegance regardless of your starting point. This episode is for anyone fascinated by old money vs new money, social codes, etiquette, cultural power, and the quiet rules that still shape opportunity, trust, and belonging in modern life.

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