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Have you ever wondered how to capture the effortless elegance of the old money aesthetic in your photographs? In this episode of Awkward Etiquette, Auntie Kiki explores the fascinating intersection of photography, lifestyle, and modern manners. From the stiff aristocratic oil portrait style photos of the past to the iconic, sun-drenched leisure captured by legendary photographer Slim Aarons, we decode the unwritten rules of taking, sharing, and displaying pictures. You will learn how to slimify your vacation snapshots without needing a private villa, the golden rules of smartphone photo etiquette to save your friendships, and how to decorate your home with personal memories without making it look cluttered or tacky. Put down the ring light, pour yourself a martini, and discover how to romanticize your everyday life while ensuring your photos remain perfectly timeless. COMPLETE SHOW NOTES EPISODE OVERVIEW Today we are turning our lens toward the ultimate guide to photography, etiquette, and the old money aesthetic. Whether you want to channel 1970s Palm Springs glamour or just want to know how to politely ask a friend not to post an unflattering photo of you, Auntie Kiki covers it all. We dive deep into the history of high-society photography and study the master of leisure, Slim Aarons, to learn how to capture attractive people doing attractive things in attractive places. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE A Short History of Old Money Photography We trace how wealthy families documented their legacies, transitioning from formal oil paintings and stiff Victorian daguerreotypes to Kodak society snapshots. Discover how the digital era has forced high society to adopt a discreet, understated online presence. Who Was Slim Aarons? A deep dive into the master of leisure photography. Learn how Slim Aarons defined the old money aesthetic by capturing candidly curated moments of high society in places like Palm Beach, Lake Como, and Gstaad. Iconic Photo Breakdown An analysis of classic Slim Aarons shots like Poolside Gossip, Holiday at the Villa, and Apres-Ski. Auntie Kiki explains why looking away from the camera, avoiding trendy fashion, and letting the setting do the heavy lifting are the ultimate visual flexes. How to Slimify Your Vacation Photos Actionable tips for romanticizing your life and capturing timeless, chic photos without a massive budget. Learn why you should ditch the ring light, embrace natural lighting, use elegant props like books or a bar cart, and wear classic linens and timeless silhouettes. Modern Photo Etiquette How to navigate the awkwardness of the digital age. Auntie Kiki shares the rules on asking for permission before snapping a pic, the massive faux pas of posting unflattering photos of your friends, and how to gracefully handle the situation when someone tags you in a terrible shot. Digital Good Manners The dos and don'ts of commenting on social media. Learn why you should never critique outfits or leave passive-aggressive comments, and why a curated highlight of three photos is always better than a twenty-seven photo hostage situation. Displaying Photos in Your Home The old money approach to interior design and family albums. Learn why discretion is key, which frames to choose (think tarnished silver, dark wood, or leather), and why sentiment belongs in intimate spaces like hallways and studies rather than formal public rooms. KEY TAKEAWAYS Posing is for people who do not belong. The trick to looking effortlessly wealthy is being caught mid-conversation or mid-recline without a single care in the world. Dress for timelessness. Avoid obvious logos, bright performance gear, and trendy fast fashion to ensure your photos age gracefully and never scream a specific year. Never sacrifice living in the present moment just to capture a photograph. Take your snapshot to commemorate the moment, then put your phone away. When displaying photos at home, less is more. Avoid overly matched gallery walls and massive flashy frames, opting instead for a few meaningful heritage or candid shots placed thoughtfully in private living areas.