"I want the old you back." Sometimes that's how the people closest to you respond when you start actually living your values — and it's exactly what this week’s caller Brie is running into with her own family, on this episode of Please Advise.Suzy takes two listener calls this week. First, Ana, 44, back on the job hunt after a sabbatical, doing everything by the book: networking, applying, staying intentional. Yet still hitting silence. Suzy walks through Ana's values and aptitudes and lands on the real problem: it's not her, it's her tactics. Suzy shares her advice after years of being on both sides of the desk. Then Brie calls in. She's gotten clear on her values and is living more aligned with them than ever, except her family isn't sure what to make of the new her. Suzy names what's actually happening: Brie's family is confusing values with virtues, and reading her growth as a rejection of them. Suzy walks through her own version of this story, including a hard-won truce with her own kids over Workcentrism and Achievement, and makes the case that naming your values out loud, to the people who love you, is what keeps you close instead of growing apart.As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge. You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the ⁠Becoming You newsletter⁠ for fresh new content in one tidy package.Want more Becoming You? Check out the ⁠Becoming You book⁠.You can follow and tag Suzy on:• Instagram: ⁠@suzywelch⁠• Linkedin: ⁠@suzywelch⁠• TikTok: ⁠@suzywelch⁠• YouTube: ⁠@suzywelch_⁠• X: ⁠@SuzyWelch⁠

Ask this episode

“What did the council decide on item 42?” — answered with the speaker and the moment.

Transcript

Related