Parenting teenagers through the tumultuous waters of divorce, separation, and co-parenting just became a little clearer thanks to our guest, parenting coach Mike Barsamian. With a rich background in understanding teenage behavior, Mike equates their journey to walking a tightrope, balancing precariously between the realms of childhood and adulthood. Together, we unpack the concept of "code switching" as teenagers navigate varying rules and values in each parent's home. Mike offers actionable advice on establishing consistent routines, helping parents create a supportive environment amidst familial shifts.As we explore the journey of parenting through divorce, Mike sheds light on the challenges of rebuilding self-esteem and identity when an ex-partner's influence might be negative. Emphasizing the transition from nurturing young children to guiding teenagers, we discuss the PACE method, which fosters emotional regulation, accountability, and empathy. The marathon metaphor serves as a reminder that the parenting journey focuses on supporting teenagers into adulthood without seeking personal accolades, helping them develop good judgment and a robust sense of identity.Empathy and collaboration emerge as vital themes in improving communication and reducing conflict, particularly with ex-spouses and teenagers returning from visits. Mike shares strategies to avoid defensiveness and foster open dialogue through curiosity and empathy. We stress the importance of appreciation over admiration and encourage self-reflection to nurture stronger relationships. For those seeking further guidance, Mike offers resources and strategy sessions through PresenceSolutionsForParents.com. Engaging deeply with these insights can transform the parenting experience, making it both rewarding and effective.

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