Lauren Bay-Regula is a three-time Canadian Olympian in softball, and one of the most honest, self-aware voices you'll hear on what it actually looks like to parent in today's youth sports world. Her path back to the Olympics at 39 wasn't just about softball. It came after six years of postpartum depression and identity loss following the 2008 Games, years she describes as being buried from a mental standpoint. With three kids under ten and a business to run, Lauren found her way back to the sport she loved. In doing so, she found herself again. That journey now shapes everything about how she parents her three teenage children through sport. She and her husband Dave have a full yearly calendar just to protect family time. She texts coaches directly about what her kids will and won't attend. She canceled an entire week of activities mid-season because she hit a wall and needed five nights of family dinners more than another tournament weekend. And she'll be the first to tell you she doesn't always get it right. Lauren brings a perspective that's equal parts world-class athlete and exhausted, trying-her-best sports parent — and she has a lot to say about an industry that has turned play into work, development into an afterthought, and schedules into something that can split a family across three different states in a single weekend. If the phrase "elite competitive eight-year-old All-Star" sounds like an oxymoron to you, you're going to love this conversation. Chapters00:00 Opening01:35 Introducing Lauren Bay-Regula04:04 Youth sports then vs. now06:40 Growing up in Trail, BC09:19 What sport should really teach kids10:30 Did she ever feel pressure as a kid?14:00 The road to her first Olympics20:00 Parenting three kids through youth sports28:00 The overwhelm meltdown34:22 Being mom, not coach35:07 When sport has no off-season37:50 Coming back at 39 with three kids at home41:46 The motivation: herself and her children43:31 Bronze medal in the fruit bowl45:24 Six years of depression and identity loss46:55 Why high achievers resist getting help49:09 Talking to her kids about mental health54:00 Being the lighthouse57:25 The mirror test58:57 Do parents have agency to change things?01:01:20 The one-upper mentality in youth sports clubs01:06:09 Her biggest pitfall as a sports parent01:10:20 What makes a great youth coach01:12:07 The biggest issues in youth sports today ResourcesTeam Canada ProfileStrong Mom TrAk AthleticsLauren's Instagram

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