Sports agent and advisor Ross Gurney shares his unique perspective on youth sports from both sides - as a professional who's guided players through leagues like the NHL & CFL and as a father navigating the youth sports environment with his own two children.With clients like Duncan Keith, Devon Toews, and Zach Benson, Ross has seen what it actually takes to make it to the highest levels of sport. But his message might surprise you: it's not about early specialization, elite camps, or rushing up levels. Instead, Ross advocates for "overcooking"—playing level-appropriate hockey where kids get more reps and meaningful roles.In this conversation, Ross discusses:Why early specialization is concerning from both a professional and parental lensThe dangerous overuse of the word "elite" in youth sportsHow good people can become "crazy sports parents" in one sport but not anotherWhat coaches actually want (hint: it's not always the stat-sheet leaders)Warning signs for parents when evaluating programs and organizationsWhy the biggest issue in youth sports today is access and facilitiesHow to identify a child's unique "internal scorecard" beyond traditional statisticsRoss also shares the powerful moment when his own son told him, "Dad, I don't think I want to be a hockey player"—and why that conversation was actually "really cool."Whether your child dreams of playing professionally or your focus is on wanting them to develop a lifelong love of sport, this episode offers invaluable wisdom on keeping joy, passion, and authentic play at the center of the youth sports experience.Chapters00:00 Introduction03:28 Breaking Into the Sports Agency Business06:48 Growing Up With Unstructured Play in Kelowna07:54 Parents' Hands-Off Approach to Youth Sports11:02 What Ross Sees in Today's Youth Sports Landscape12:13 Why Early Specialization Is Concerning13:10 Recognizing Kids Who Lack Joy in Their Sport14:12 How Good Parents Become "Crazy Sports Parents"15:53 Navigating His Own Child's Hockey Journey16:30 "I Don't Think I Want to Be a Hockey Player"18:45 Dealing With the Pressure of the Family Business19:26 What "Slow Down" Means for Youth Sports Parents21:05 Most Common Questions Parents Ask Ross23:15 "What Do We Need to Do to Get Seen?"25:20 How Life Changes When Sports Becomes a Business28:14 The Conflict of Talking to 14-Year-Olds About Pro Aspirations30:14 Elite: A Dangerous Word in Youth Sports33:43 The Business of Youth Sports & Skill Development36:27 Passion and the Internal Scorecard37:50 Finding Each Player's Contribution41:40 What Sport Has Brought to His Children's Lives43:18 What a Sports Agent Actually Is (At Their Best)46:28 Satisfaction Beyond a Client Going Pro49:50 The Philosophy of "Overcooking"52:52 Warning Signs: When to Walk Away From a Family54:56 What Coaches Actually Want vs. What Parents Think They Want57:16 Warning Signs in Organizations for Parents01:01:35 Lack of Recreational Pathways for Teenagers01:04:35 The Biggest Issue in Youth Sports Today: Access

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