Ever catch yourself predicting the worst - no parks, no luck, no chance - and then proving yourself right? In this refreshingly candid solo episode, Hilary unpacks why so many of us default to spotting the glitch instead of the glimmer - and how a tiny shift in focus can change what you notice, how you feel, and the life you build. Drawing on real-life stories (parking myths, mentoring-room “regrets,” young-Nana trampoline energy, and Toastmasters butterflies) plus bite-sized psychology, Hilary explains negativity bias, the 3-to-1 rule for emotional balance, and learned optimism. You’ll walk away with simple, repeatable practices to re-train your brain’s filter (RAS), flip setbacks into fuel, and start a positive-result spiral on purpose. In this episode you’ll learn: Why the brain overweights bad - and how to rebalance with the 3-to-1 rule. The “Accept or Change” life rule to stop simmering in resentment. How to reframe in real time (from “I have to” → “I get to”). A nightly “Three Glimmers” ritual to rewire your RAS for good. How to surround yourself with glimmer-spotters and visualise the win before it happens. Your Challenge This Week →Each night, list three glimmers - moments, conversations, or coincidences that went right. Then, tomorrow, pick one inevitable hiccup and ask: “What’s the glimmer here?” Bonus points for swapping one “have to” for an “I get to.” 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: [email protected] Know someone who needs this?Share this episode with the friend who always says, “Typical, that never happens for me.” Tell them they’re your glimmer - and watch the contagion of optimism do its thing. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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