Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup OUCH words hurt, don’t they? What to do? You can get over whatever bullshit your ex said to you during your relationship or breakup. You can put the past in the past. I go you. In this week’s episode, I dive into: -WHY people say hurtful things during a breakup -Why you may be holding onto the past -MY recent lessons about breakups and hurtful words -Coping with hurtful words in the early days after a breakup -Healing -How to put the past in the past Episodes mentioned in this episode: 117: Self-forgiveness and breakups 163: MY recent breakup lessons 167: Talking about your breakup 172: A letter to your ex Quotes from this episode: “Don’t get hung up on letting your ex know the impact of their words or actions. It is done with. It is not important to have the last word.” “Blaming yourself keeps you trapped. Learn to forgive yourself. Commit to moving on. Commit to learning from this experience rather than torturing yourself over it.” “Rumination causes us to identify with our thoughts. When we ruminate over painful words we start to think that they are true.” “Our thoughts are not our reality. They are just thoughts.” “Do you love yourself enough to set yourself free by releasing this person?” “Repeating words outloud causes us to identify with them more and more and more. The words that were spoken to you were negative and hurtful. Repeating them spreads that negativity. It gives fuel to them. It keeps them in your system rather than allowing them to start to leave your system.” Want to connect? Email: [email protected] IG: @janiceformichella @breakupspodcast Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

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